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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 42289"><p>smallworld - </p><p></p><p>I think you're right in that he's angry and frustrated and doesn't know how to express it. I think he feels like he has so little control and that makes him want to exert more control. A close friend of mine told me the other night that easy child has a big personality and that it sometimes gets overlooked dealing with GFGness so much. I think she's right. I have explained what's going on with my health several times and he said that he just doesn't think it's an excuse. Yesterday, for example, I wanted to come out of my skin. He said he didn't think that was an excuse for me not to do the dishes. Sigh... He told me today that he doesn't think difficult child is depressed. He said I always use her mental illness as an excuse. I told him that it really didn't matter if he thought she was depressed because the doctors think she is and they're the experts. I then explained that I don't use her mental health as an excuse, but as an explanation so he can see where she is coming from and why "normal" things are much harder for her and that I am trying to help her cope, not excuse the behavior. easy child thinks everything should be a Basket A issue. He doesn't cut her any slack. </p><p></p><p>My mom picked him up this afternoon. He was just going to spend the night, but after my mom and I talked she asked if I wanted him to stay through the weekend. I told her I didn't think it would be a bad idea. I think it will do us (easy child and I) both good to get a break. I know how hard it is to live in a house with a difficult child. As a sibling with no authority, it has to be that much more frustrating. I do understand that. I think there is a lot of resentment building in easy child. He needs a break from it. And so do I. My mom will also talk to him, I know. Sometimes he hears things better from her than he does from me. Probably because he's so angry with me that it skews everything I say.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening and for the input, ladies. It helps to think things through in this forum and I appreciate all your thoughts and insight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 42289"] smallworld - I think you're right in that he's angry and frustrated and doesn't know how to express it. I think he feels like he has so little control and that makes him want to exert more control. A close friend of mine told me the other night that easy child has a big personality and that it sometimes gets overlooked dealing with GFGness so much. I think she's right. I have explained what's going on with my health several times and he said that he just doesn't think it's an excuse. Yesterday, for example, I wanted to come out of my skin. He said he didn't think that was an excuse for me not to do the dishes. Sigh... He told me today that he doesn't think difficult child is depressed. He said I always use her mental illness as an excuse. I told him that it really didn't matter if he thought she was depressed because the doctors think she is and they're the experts. I then explained that I don't use her mental health as an excuse, but as an explanation so he can see where she is coming from and why "normal" things are much harder for her and that I am trying to help her cope, not excuse the behavior. easy child thinks everything should be a Basket A issue. He doesn't cut her any slack. My mom picked him up this afternoon. He was just going to spend the night, but after my mom and I talked she asked if I wanted him to stay through the weekend. I told her I didn't think it would be a bad idea. I think it will do us (easy child and I) both good to get a break. I know how hard it is to live in a house with a difficult child. As a sibling with no authority, it has to be that much more frustrating. I do understand that. I think there is a lot of resentment building in easy child. He needs a break from it. And so do I. My mom will also talk to him, I know. Sometimes he hears things better from her than he does from me. Probably because he's so angry with me that it skews everything I say. Thanks for listening and for the input, ladies. It helps to think things through in this forum and I appreciate all your thoughts and insight. [/QUOTE]
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