rejectedmom
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A couple weeks ago my Aspie son started having delusions at work and he was sent to the EAP councelor. From there he was taken to ER where they ran tests and sent him to a treatment facility. After a week he realized that he couldn't afford his co-pay and checked himself out against medical advice. No one ever called us and I just found out about it yesterday.
Well he is still having frequent and persistant delusions and so we met with his job HR director this morning to see what was needed to allow him back to work and to discus FML and the continuation of benifits Then at lunchtime we went back to the ER and had him re-processed and taken by ambulance to a Psyc treatment facility. I spent the day with him waiting for his placement at the hospital and followed the ambulance to the center an hour away. I did this because I didn't want him to be alone again and so the doctors knew he had family that loved him and stood by him. It was hard when we passed through the town that his college was in and where he had graduated with honors a few year back. I kept telling myself not to loose it because he didn't like drama and either did I.
easy child/difficult child's birth mother was schizophrenic but since he had made it to age thirty, we though he had escaped that diagnosis. It is possible that he is a late manifest.
My son has overcome so many obsticles in his life time he is truly my hero. He never gives up when things are hard. He has beat many medical problems, surgeries, learning disabilities ,bullying, abuse etc. He even bought his own home a couple of years ago all on his own. He prided himslef on being self-sufficient. But now it seems his life got too overwhelming and he has become delusional as a result. It appears that his brother's prision sentance and his neighbor's bullying and vandalizing his car to the tune of $3000 were the last straw.
He told the doctors at the hospital that he has been drinking alot also. I was aware of this and have tried to get him help in the past. Aspies are at a very high risk for alcoholism. He was sent to a dual diagnosis facility. I do not know how long he will be there but there will be one less at our holiday table.
We are thinking about renting out his condo and having him move in with us when he is discharged. easy child/difficult child has never been disrespectful, never been entitiled, never been anything but determined and apreciative and responsible. My heart is breaking for him right now.
And as if this isn't hard enough for him, I am pretty sure his employers are looking for legal ways to get him off the books so they do not have to pay his benefits. They told me his behavior at work was disruptive to the other workers and that they just cannot have that. I understand that. But truthfully this company has a bad reputation for mistreatment of their employee.s They also said that they could demand that he sees their own doctors before he can return to work and that they can change his position as long as they keep his pay the same. They were definately posturing at this morning's meeting. there were additional people in attendance as witnesses taking notes and recorded the entire thing. I doubt easy child/difficult child will remain in their employ for very long even if he gets back to work within the FML timeline. They will just make it unbearable and write him up for ever little thing to build a case for firing. easy child/difficult child has worked for them for 6 years and only took one (forced) vacation.
Right now I am very mad at God. First easy child's head injury last Dec. that prevents her from functioning well enough to work. Then her husband asks for a divorce, then difficult child gets the maximum sentance of 7 years and is sent to a state facility far away from here. Then easy child/difficult child is terrorized and bilked out of 2000 and has his car torn up by same bully (he was so afraid of this guy that he refused to take him to court)
And now... this.
Well he is still having frequent and persistant delusions and so we met with his job HR director this morning to see what was needed to allow him back to work and to discus FML and the continuation of benifits Then at lunchtime we went back to the ER and had him re-processed and taken by ambulance to a Psyc treatment facility. I spent the day with him waiting for his placement at the hospital and followed the ambulance to the center an hour away. I did this because I didn't want him to be alone again and so the doctors knew he had family that loved him and stood by him. It was hard when we passed through the town that his college was in and where he had graduated with honors a few year back. I kept telling myself not to loose it because he didn't like drama and either did I.
easy child/difficult child's birth mother was schizophrenic but since he had made it to age thirty, we though he had escaped that diagnosis. It is possible that he is a late manifest.
My son has overcome so many obsticles in his life time he is truly my hero. He never gives up when things are hard. He has beat many medical problems, surgeries, learning disabilities ,bullying, abuse etc. He even bought his own home a couple of years ago all on his own. He prided himslef on being self-sufficient. But now it seems his life got too overwhelming and he has become delusional as a result. It appears that his brother's prision sentance and his neighbor's bullying and vandalizing his car to the tune of $3000 were the last straw.
He told the doctors at the hospital that he has been drinking alot also. I was aware of this and have tried to get him help in the past. Aspies are at a very high risk for alcoholism. He was sent to a dual diagnosis facility. I do not know how long he will be there but there will be one less at our holiday table.
We are thinking about renting out his condo and having him move in with us when he is discharged. easy child/difficult child has never been disrespectful, never been entitiled, never been anything but determined and apreciative and responsible. My heart is breaking for him right now.
And as if this isn't hard enough for him, I am pretty sure his employers are looking for legal ways to get him off the books so they do not have to pay his benefits. They told me his behavior at work was disruptive to the other workers and that they just cannot have that. I understand that. But truthfully this company has a bad reputation for mistreatment of their employee.s They also said that they could demand that he sees their own doctors before he can return to work and that they can change his position as long as they keep his pay the same. They were definately posturing at this morning's meeting. there were additional people in attendance as witnesses taking notes and recorded the entire thing. I doubt easy child/difficult child will remain in their employ for very long even if he gets back to work within the FML timeline. They will just make it unbearable and write him up for ever little thing to build a case for firing. easy child/difficult child has worked for them for 6 years and only took one (forced) vacation.
Right now I am very mad at God. First easy child's head injury last Dec. that prevents her from functioning well enough to work. Then her husband asks for a divorce, then difficult child gets the maximum sentance of 7 years and is sent to a state facility far away from here. Then easy child/difficult child is terrorized and bilked out of 2000 and has his car torn up by same bully (he was so afraid of this guy that he refused to take him to court)
And now... this.
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