easy child is sooo glad to be home. I knew he would be. When I talked to him on Christmas night and again on Thursday, he didn't want to get off the phone...kept looking for things to talk about. He does that when he's ready to come home. He's so cute and funny about things. The first thing he does when he gets home is check out the house to make sure nothing has changed. He was only gone a week! My mom mentioned coming up this past Friday to help me take down the tree and stuff and I told her that it would have to wait until after Devon got home. He gets upset if things change while he's gone. Kinda like life went on without him. His friends had a mini party Sat night and he went over, but called me at 12:30 to come get him. He wanted to sleep in his own bed. He has a friend over tonight. He's such a homebody. I ended up not sending him the email about replacing my thing because he always gets so nervous when he goes to his dad's. I told him on Saturday that I wanted him to replace. He looked a bit sheepish, said ok and asked if I knew where to get it. Then he opened up his Christmas presents from me and was upset that I spent the money on him. He knows how tight things are financially right now. See? He is a really good kid. Somedays I just get so caught up in the teenage stuff that I overlook it. Anyway...on the stupid ex/easy child's dad. He called the day before easy child went down and easy child wasn't home. Let me back up a bit. We've been divorced for 13 years. He was a real schmuck and well...leopards don't change their spots. They just get better at hiding them. For the first couple years after our divorce I couldn't talk to him without feeling physically ill. That's long since passed and I just ignore him most of the time now. Do a lot of eye rolling, but that's about it. Anyway, so he calls the night before and he and I are talking about Devon. He's going on and I told him that easy child is a really good kid and that he treats him like a juvenile delinquent in the making and it really bothers easy child when they call him 'spoiled' or a 'Yankee' in that not-so-nice way. Of course, deny, deny, deny. easy child's just saying that stuff to me to spare my feelings. Ok. Whatever. It dissolved into this really oooooold argument of I took easy child 600 miles away to spite him, blah, blah, blah. I remind him that he only lived 12 miles from me when I lived in Atlanta and that for several months before I moved he couldn't be bothered to visit or call. Then I remind him how even after we moved here in Sept, 1994, he or noone in his family so much as called or sent easy child a card for Christmas and not to get me started on that old, tired argument. Of course, he denied and I reminded him that I had documented everything. Then told him off (using not so pretty language) and hung up. Ok. Not one of my shinier moments. But, have you ever known someone that could take you from joy to seeing red in 10 seconds flat? Well, that's him. Hence, why I ignore him now. So. easy child has asked his dad to help him buy a car. Afterall, K (easy child's dad) bought his step-daughter a car 4 months before she got her license and easy child got $100 on his b-day and K telling him that he feels like he shorted him. Ya think? Well, first K wouldn't get easy child a car unless easy child moved to Atlanta. easy child told him that wasn't happening. Then K tells him that he will get easy child a car, but easy child has to contribute money to it. easy child is willing to do that, but of course upset that his step-sister (the one with $500 and $800 cell phone bills) didn't have to. Now K is telling easy child that since I'm on medicaid I won't be able to have another car in my name as that will throw me over the amount of assets I'm allowed to have. K and I talked about this in our conversation the night before easy child went down. I told him that I would look into an out of state person registering a car in the state of Ohio so he could have the car in his name. I also told him that if that wouldn't work, we could put the car in my mom's name. No bigee. It could be worked around. If I determined it was going to be an issue to begin with, as that has YET to be determined. So, basically K doesn't want to get easy child a car, but is using ME as his excuse. easy child is livid. He said the only thing any of them (except his dad's sister) did while he was down there was criticize him. He said not one single compliment. He said he told them that they could say what they wanted, it wasn't going to make him feel bad about himself it was just going to make him not like them. Yay! Devon! Good for him for standing up for himself. He normally doesn't stand up to his dad AT ALL. So, I told easy child we'll just take his dad out of the equation. I did have some (not much) earned income last year and we'll take what little I get back for a tax refund and buy him a car. It won't be anything nice, but it will run and will get him around and give him the independence he's looking for. He was against it saying that me and Nana buy him everything and his dad does nothing. I'm going to preface this next comment with I normally don't speak ill of his father. His father does enough of that on his own. But, he was obviously upset and I said well maybe you're dad will feel like then and he'll just have to deal with it. easy child said, well, that's one way to look at it. I just don't want to deal with it anymore. No, I really can't afford to buy easy child a car, but the emotional toll with K (for easy child) is just not worth it. I told easy child that I was planning on buying him a car all along. easy child said, 'Mom, it's not your fault you're sick'. The thing is, K has done nothing to build a good relationship with his son, but you care to guess who will be blamed when easy child doesn't want much to do with him? You know, I don't care what K does at his own house with his family, whatever. But, dammit, you don't hurt my kid. Whew. I didn't intend for this to be so long. Guess it was pent up. Thanks for listening.