Bug my Easy Child has me concerned. First of all lets start with the fact that Easy Child in my case stands for less volatile than Difficult Child. Bug is 15. She has very few friends. I don't want to be "that" mom who judges people by their race, house, clothing, or sexuality but man oh man can she pick some real doosies. We have the girl who dated and slept with Bug's boyfriend while they were dating. We have the girl who is dating Bug's ex boyfriend even though Bug told her she wasn't ok with it. We have the girl who stayed with us as a foster who was a total mess. We have the lesbian, who I will call K, who has attempted to (and succeeded) seduce half the girls at the library. Did I mention every one of the girls above also dated K from the library. Did I add that K from the library lives across the street and smokes pot like a chimney. Did I add that K's dad works all the time and is never home so the girls are all welcome in the apartment all the time. Before everyone gets up in arms about the lesbian thing let me state that I could care less about the sexual orientation issues. I live near freaking Seattle WA people! LOL Sexual orientation is the least unusual thing I deal with around here. I'm generally just happy when I don't get accosted by the hippies who don't wear deodorant and have piercings that could put my eye out. Anyway the point of the info above is not about the sexual orientation it is about the general lack of self esteem someone would have to have to continue to be friends with these individuals. I would have dumped these girls like a hot potato back when I was 15. First of all they broke the cardinal girl rule of never sniping a friends ex boy friend. Second they have more drama than I even want to discuss here. Not just girls being girls drama but threatening to harm themselves because of something somebady said or did drama. K is constantly threatening to harm herself because Bug wont return her calls or says something she doesn't like. My problem is that I need advice on ways to teach Bug self esteem and to get her off of that rollercoaster of drama. She needs GOOD friends. I've tried the quality vs quantity talks and Difficult Child tells her to burn those bridges all the time. I'm not moving her from the school because she has moved too many times as an Army brat already. She refuses to take part in any of the activities on post and we have some awesome activities here. I am to the point of making her do it. Any advice?