So before easy child went to live with his dad a month ago, I made him sign an agreement that stated that he would continue to give my son his Focalin every day while he is attending school. My ex signed the agreement no problems no questions asked. I just found out from my son that my ex has not given him one single pill, not ever. I freaked out. I texted ex right away and stated that I knew easy child was not on medications, and I reminded him that easy child is a straight D/F student without his Focalin and he is a straight A student as long as he takes his medications. I told him that it is imperative that he takes his ADHD medications on a regular basis for him to be a success in school. Ex's only response was, "I am taking care of him quite well." His response infuriated me. I stressed from day one to him how severe his ADHD really is. How badly easy child struggled in school before getting on his medications. How his self esteem was so poor when he was getting bad grades. How proud easy child was of himself when he got straight A's and made the honor roll last semester. I thought I did everything in my power to make sure he knew that easy child needed his Focalin. Turns out everything I told him went in one ear and out the other. So now I have placed phone calls to both the case carrier and his guidance counselor. I am waiting to hear back from them. When easy child first started school there I talked to his counselor and he agreed to put him on a 30 day interim placement and to have an IEP meeting afterward to discuss his placement/progress. It's been three weeks since my son has started school so his IEP should be within the next week or so. I plan on taking half a day off work to attend the IEP. I don't know if his dad will be attending or not, since he told me last time I talked to him that easy child should be a "normal kid" and shouldn't have to have an IEP. Now I feel guilty for sending easy child over there. I am anxiously awaiting to hear back from his case carrier and counselor. I feel bad that I waited this long to contact anybody from the school. I should have checked on him earlier and I should have asked my son from day one if his dad was giving him his medications. I just wrongly assumed that since his dad signed a little piece of paper and since we had our little talk that he was doing what I asked of him. Never again will I make assumptions. And my ex just got through telling my daughter a few weeks ago that she was a hopeless cause and that it was too late for her to become a success. He told her that her brother still had a chance to make it, and that's why he took him in to live with him. Because he still has a chance in life. So now difficult child feels like a total failure. And despite my ex claiming he wants to be a positive role model in my son's life, he is sabotoging him by not doing what is best for his education. If I find out my son is struggling in school and his grades have gone down, I am taking him back. Pure and simple. Legally I still have full physical custody. I am just hoping it doesn't get to that point. But **** me for not checking up on him sooner.