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easy child says I don't want relationship with difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 65253" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>One of the falsehoods when it comes to difficult children therapy - all they have to do is apologize and the damage they've done will be repaired. Not so much.</p><p></p><p>I think if part of difficult child 1's therapy is to send an apology letter, great. It is *not* part of difficult child 1's therapy that easy child has to accept it. I think this is such an important lesson for our kids and one that gets lost sometimes... "I'm sorry" is not a free pass. It is entirely reasonable for easy child to not want a relationship with- difficult child 1, especially at this age. </p><p></p><p>Had kind of a similar situation a few years ago with Weeburt and thank you - thank you made his usual nasty comments during a family therapy session (which the pcs had not been exposed to before) and it completely sent Wee over the deep end. He was utterly devastated and I felt like such an idiot for allowing it (hindsight being 20/20). Family therapy came to a screeching halt at that point as far as the sibs were concerned. It was up to Wee to decide when and if he wanted to reconnect with- thank you.</p><p></p><p>Our pcs go thru far too much to *force* them to have a relationship with the person who has, in essence, been the abuser. It's hard enough to keep pcs mentally healthy... I'd stand firm here that it's your easy child's choice and decision, period. If it doesn't fit in with- difficult child 1's treatment plan, then therapist needs to come up with plan B (maybe what to do when you've burned your bridges?).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 65253, member: 8"] One of the falsehoods when it comes to difficult children therapy - all they have to do is apologize and the damage they've done will be repaired. Not so much. I think if part of difficult child 1's therapy is to send an apology letter, great. It is *not* part of difficult child 1's therapy that easy child has to accept it. I think this is such an important lesson for our kids and one that gets lost sometimes... "I'm sorry" is not a free pass. It is entirely reasonable for easy child to not want a relationship with- difficult child 1, especially at this age. Had kind of a similar situation a few years ago with Weeburt and thank you - thank you made his usual nasty comments during a family therapy session (which the pcs had not been exposed to before) and it completely sent Wee over the deep end. He was utterly devastated and I felt like such an idiot for allowing it (hindsight being 20/20). Family therapy came to a screeching halt at that point as far as the sibs were concerned. It was up to Wee to decide when and if he wanted to reconnect with- thank you. Our pcs go thru far too much to *force* them to have a relationship with the person who has, in essence, been the abuser. It's hard enough to keep pcs mentally healthy... I'd stand firm here that it's your easy child's choice and decision, period. If it doesn't fit in with- difficult child 1's treatment plan, then therapist needs to come up with plan B (maybe what to do when you've burned your bridges?). [/QUOTE]
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