easy child has been an unhappy person before but lately, last 5 months or so, it's gotten worse and worse. I read another post today about a difficult child that is impossible to talk to. That's my was-easy child. Never happy, never nice, complains about everything. This morning, I made pancakes. I called to her that I made pancakes. No answer. She often ignores me so I figured fine, she doesn't want any. She comes to the kitchen, "Where's my pancakes? Typical, you never make me anything." I ignored it. She made herself pancakes. She asked me if we could go shopping. I said sure. She asked me if I washed the jeans yet. I said no, they were going in the washer next. She says "Typical, you never wash the jeans first. You never wash what I need." I said "I know, I'm such a terrible mother." Her reponse "Yeah, you are.". I lost it on her. An argument ensued. I tried to talk to her about why she's so angry "I don't know", why she's so hateful to me and her brother "I don't know", if she wants to go back to counseling "I don't know", if she understands how she makes the people around her feel when she acts like this "I don't know" with that lovely defiant, what-are-you-going-to-do-about-it look on her face.
I decided to go shopping anyways. We needed to put a special pair of pants on order for her for a school function. It has to be done by Weds and I don't have time to do it at night after work this week. I didn't plan on buying her anything anyways. We were walking around, her in a mood trailing me like a robot, total attitude. She said something, I reached out to grab her hand and she punched me in the stomach. I've never laid a hand on her. I looked at her with this shocked face and said "I can't believe you just did that". Her response? "I told you I didn't want to go".
I'm just shocked. With all the problems I've had with difficult child, he's never laid a hand on me. I've always made it clear that physical violence is unacceptable. I ignored her the rest of the time. I took her phone away. She cried and apologized in the car. Her younger difficult child saw it. The last thing I need is him thinking when he's bigger, it'd be ok to hit me. I'm just in shock and not sure what to do from here. That went way, way far over the line for me.
I decided to go shopping anyways. We needed to put a special pair of pants on order for her for a school function. It has to be done by Weds and I don't have time to do it at night after work this week. I didn't plan on buying her anything anyways. We were walking around, her in a mood trailing me like a robot, total attitude. She said something, I reached out to grab her hand and she punched me in the stomach. I've never laid a hand on her. I looked at her with this shocked face and said "I can't believe you just did that". Her response? "I told you I didn't want to go".
I'm just shocked. With all the problems I've had with difficult child, he's never laid a hand on me. I've always made it clear that physical violence is unacceptable. I ignored her the rest of the time. I took her phone away. She cried and apologized in the car. Her younger difficult child saw it. The last thing I need is him thinking when he's bigger, it'd be ok to hit me. I'm just in shock and not sure what to do from here. That went way, way far over the line for me.
