hi! soooooooo had a few minutes and wanted to update on easy child, run my plan past you guys. easy child is like a roller coaster ride as of late. the blow ups have stopped, why? well she's doing what she wants when she wants literally. walks in at anytime she wants to, doesnt' come home now when she doesn't want to. There is no anger, or crazy texts it's just she just doesnt' show up. husband and i sat there last night like ok it's 1 a.m. and no easy child again. i saw her last friday afternoon, she just came floating in door, grabbed food is laying on our new sectional in den with food all over it. so the plan is her and i with her therapist on tuesday. it is already set. i'm going to go in with a list of things that we need here in order for her to remain living here. if she doesnt' comply than she can leave. her birthday the big 18 is around the corner. - keep her room clean; it's disgusting it smells she's never here food in there and all. - chores around house (each week has to contribute to being part of a family here) - meets curfew each night; no disappearing walking in when wants to etc. - also if she is punished which she was and totally disregarded has to follow it. (it was minimal and she just left like it didn't exist.) I'm like a doormat now. it's out of control. she's asking for prom dresses to be bought, me to get her a drivers' permit she doesnt' have yet, take her to dentist for her teeth that are in pain, and she wants us to book a hotel room for her birthday at great adventure for her and her friends. i told her today, i'm not mad this just isnt' going to work at all for me. i said i'll have a list of things on tuesday we'll talk with therapist and hopefully we'll decide what direction we are going into that day. You are a part of our family and you cannot just use us for roof, shelter, food, etc. doesn't work that way. she isnt even going to funeral tmrw upstate, we're leaving tongiht for my grandfather. she wasnt close to him at all. yet she didnt' even call her grandfather my stepfather who she is very close to to say i'm sorry. totally not cool.