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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 18439"><p>Thank you for your support.</p><p></p><p>Chances are not good I'll get a break anytime soon. My mother tends to see difficult child as just a brat and doesn't like to take her. She does very occassionally go to a friend's for the night, but she always calls me often, so it's not really a true break. I do try to get out to dinner with a girlfriend once a week - but again, she calls often. I quit taking my cellphone with me because she won't call my friend's cell as often as mine. But she still calls at least a couple of times wanting to know when I'll be home,etc.</p><p></p><p>I've been easy child's punching bag for years and I'm sick of it. When he was depressed, he would come to me and very calmly and nonchalontly say to me, "You know how much you say you love me? Well, that's how much I hate you." I never showed him a reaction, but that really gets to you. He would leave notes all over my room that read, "I hate you". *I* was the one fighting for him and trying to help him. And I was the only one doing it. His father thought he just needed a good spanking and my mother thought I was just wanting to medicate him because I didn't like his behavior. Since she and easy child are so close, she was very good at undermining everything I and his psychologist were trying to accomplish. Then, when she finally saw it for what it was, she wanted him to come live with her. Yeah, right. Cause she would have done nothing for months - she had her head stuck in the sand. And besides, she raised me. I know what kind of parent she is. Wasn't going to happen. Before this I was his father's punching bag (literally and figuratively) and when easy child starts spouting off to me it reminds me so much of his father. Isn't that horrible of me?</p><p></p><p>And I worry about whether I'm seeing signs of depression returning in him. I honestly don't know and he has said repeatedly that he won't talk to anyone - meaning therapist.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, thanks for listening. I know I can count on you guys to listen and not judge and that means so much. I wish I had found this place when easy child was 10. I didn't sleep at all last night and I've decided to take a mental health day at work. I'll work Sunday to make up the hours. I just don't have the mental capacity today. I've been clenching so bad at night that I can feel every tooth in my head. I go to the dentist for a cleaning on the 28th and I'm going to talk to them about a bite plate or whatever it's called that is supposed to help with that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 18439"] Thank you for your support. Chances are not good I'll get a break anytime soon. My mother tends to see difficult child as just a brat and doesn't like to take her. She does very occassionally go to a friend's for the night, but she always calls me often, so it's not really a true break. I do try to get out to dinner with a girlfriend once a week - but again, she calls often. I quit taking my cellphone with me because she won't call my friend's cell as often as mine. But she still calls at least a couple of times wanting to know when I'll be home,etc. I've been easy child's punching bag for years and I'm sick of it. When he was depressed, he would come to me and very calmly and nonchalontly say to me, "You know how much you say you love me? Well, that's how much I hate you." I never showed him a reaction, but that really gets to you. He would leave notes all over my room that read, "I hate you". *I* was the one fighting for him and trying to help him. And I was the only one doing it. His father thought he just needed a good spanking and my mother thought I was just wanting to medicate him because I didn't like his behavior. Since she and easy child are so close, she was very good at undermining everything I and his psychologist were trying to accomplish. Then, when she finally saw it for what it was, she wanted him to come live with her. Yeah, right. Cause she would have done nothing for months - she had her head stuck in the sand. And besides, she raised me. I know what kind of parent she is. Wasn't going to happen. Before this I was his father's punching bag (literally and figuratively) and when easy child starts spouting off to me it reminds me so much of his father. Isn't that horrible of me? And I worry about whether I'm seeing signs of depression returning in him. I honestly don't know and he has said repeatedly that he won't talk to anyone - meaning therapist. Anyway, thanks for listening. I know I can count on you guys to listen and not judge and that means so much. I wish I had found this place when easy child was 10. I didn't sleep at all last night and I've decided to take a mental health day at work. I'll work Sunday to make up the hours. I just don't have the mental capacity today. I've been clenching so bad at night that I can feel every tooth in my head. I go to the dentist for a cleaning on the 28th and I'm going to talk to them about a bite plate or whatever it's called that is supposed to help with that. [/QUOTE]
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