So, after 2 years of on again off again with her chef boyfriend, and living together for 6 months, my easy child is breaking it off with him, leaving school and coming home. She's leaving the bachelor's program because she "cannot bear to be in all the same exact classes with him for 2 straight years!" This program was a dream of hers and now she's walking away. At least she got her associates! There will be a lot of details to take care of. She has to withdraw from the program, we have to cancel the loan (I am hoping to put them into escrow somehow because she wants to do a local program to our home here but I don't think Salliemae will do that), talk with the landlady about breaking the lease (of which I am on as cosigner!), she already gave notice at her job, & move all her stuff back home. IN TWO WEEKS!!! Seventy-five percent of the apt contents are HERS. I don't even know where I will put it all, except the garage, which is damp. I am thinking that since we usually rent a storage facility, we can get a larger unit and have easy child pay the difference. There is a local 4-year College, which offers the bachelors program she is interested in. The only problem is that the credits she's earned will not transfer because the programs are set up completely different at this local school. The only option is for her to attend the one culinary school here that offers the same program, but as an associate program, not bachelors. She was supposed to go to Spain as part of her current program, so I suggested she go to Spain for a year instead and attend school there. She was all for it initially....but...you knew there was a but, right? Seems she's been 'talking' with her old boyfriend from home, Casper (he's very pale so his nickname was Casper). Seems easy child saw Casper when she was home for vacation and then he 'coincidentally' had a construction job up by her apt (2 hours away) and while there he contacted her to go grab a bite. She went...it happened to be her day off and her boyfriend's day at work. While there, Casper told her he was still in love with her...and easy child had told me the week before that she was afraid she still had feelings for Casper. I asked her some what I hoped would be some thought provoking questions: "I hope you're not jumping from boyfriend to Casper...I hope that you're not coming home and giving up your bachelor's program to be with Casper...I hope you realize that you will need a little space and time between boyfriends..." to which she said, "I know" in that teeny tiny voice she has when she knows that I've pegged her every thought and motivation. I love easy child with all my heart and when she calls me crying (5 days in a row last week) it's hard for me. It's hard because she's always been so easy and good and driven and well, for the most part, a easy child. She's a great student & hard worker. Being a baker and pastry chef has always been her dream. I don't think she'd give up her love of the kitchen for anyone but I am disappointed she's not going to complete the bachelor program at CIA. H suggested she wait a year and then start the program next fall (they only have BS enrollment once a year in the Fall) so she's not in stb-exbf's class. But easy child said she doesn't want to do that. She said if she leaves she won't go back. So that's that. As far as Casper goes, we both like him, but I hate to see easy child jump into another relationship so fast. She has no girlfriends - I would love for her to make some so she has that added richness to her life...someone else to lean on beside a boyfriend. But alas, it's not up to me and it's none of my business, which I can live with, really. I only give advice when asked....most of the time. Does anyone know if when the school rejects the salliemae funds, will the bank release the funds to us or does it just go back? I have to call. Also, has anyone every tried to get out of lease 6 months early? Can't the landlady sue us for the remainder of the lease?? That's about $5000. Can easy child offer to help find a replacement tenant? Do you think that would help? And now if my Mom moves up here to CT, I will be short a bed. Somebody's going to have to sleep on the couch, and it's not going to be my Mom. So, how is your Monday going?