So, easy child's dad is a schmuck. I've always known that. I'm over it. easy child has always seen it, but it's his dad, Know what I mean?? I think it's about to get to the point where easy child has had enough. easy child's dad (K) has always treated easy child like a second-class citizen. He didn't see easy child at all for a couple of years when easy child was little. Then decides to pop back into his life and of course it's my fault that easy child isn't falling all over him. So, then he starts sending letters highlighting the section of our divorce agreement that states something along the lines of not bad-mouthing the other parent in front of the child (ironically, K's idea to have it included). I just laughed. I never had to say anything (and never would) to my son about his dad. easy child can see it for himself. Anyway, when easy child was 7 or 8 his dad and him had to stay in a hotel room while easy child was visiting. Why? Because K's wife was jealous of easy child. easy child visited 3 times a year. Supposedly that got worked out and when easy child was visiting when he was 10, he called me very upset because his dad and step-mom were bad-mouthing me to him. I told him to let it go, that he and I knew the truth and it doesn't matter what other people say. This summer, I couldn't make the drive (we meet halfway to do the kid exchange as his dad lives in Atlanta) and my mom couldn't make it the weekend K wanted easy child. So, K drove all the way up. He wanted easy child to stay in the hotel with him that night, but easy child didn't want to. Not an unreasonable request by his dad, but easy child is such a homebody. He rarely stays at friends...they usually stay here. And easy child always gets nervous at the beginning of visitation. So, K and easy child went to dinner then easy child wanted to come home. K told easy child, "You're mom really has you spoiled." I told easy child that it was a dig at me, not him. If it were a dig at him he would have said, "You're really spoiled." I then told easy child that it was unfortunate that his dad couldn't see past his issues with me to see who easy child really is. So, easy child goes to Atlanta with his dad. This visit was no different than any other. They spend the entire time treating him as if he's a juvenile delinquent in the making (easy child may be a PITA at times, but he's a good person). They refuse to see him for who he is and try to make him into something he's not. easy child turned 16 this summer. When his step-sister (K's step-daughter) turned 16, K got her a car...a fairly new one. K's wife (step-daughter's mom) doesn't work. On easy child's 16th birthday, his dad gave him $100. Then tells easy child that he feels like he's shorted him. I had always planned on buying easy child a car, but with all of my health issues this year it's just not going to happen. So, easy child talks to his dad about getting a car. K just doesn't think it's going to be possible. One of his reasons? He doesn't think I'm very good at disciplining and that I wouldn't take the car away. He tells easy child this. First of all, he's wrong. Second of all, he's wrong. Third, his step-daughter had a $300 cell phone bill and she still has the phone and her car. But, I digress. He holds these material things over easy child's head. If you move down here you could have a car and a cell phone and an ipod, etc, etc, etc. easy child told him that he would rather live here without all that than down there with it. So...after that very long story... K calls easy child earlier this week and tells him that he's going to email him a picture of the car he's thinking about buying him. easy child checks his email all day until he gets it. It's a picture of the little dinky car that they (K, wife and bio daughter) drove while they were recently in Mexico for a week. It's not a car he's considering buying. He was 'joking'. easy child's reaction? He can't afford to get me a car, but he can go to Mexico. easy child is 16 years old. His dad has taken him on vacation with them once. Had he not gotten his step-sister (who easy child is close with, by the way) a car, easy child wouldn't think this way. We chatted online the last 2 weeks easy child was there this summer and easy child was just going on and on about the things they say to him, how they treat him, what they think of him and how he had nothing to do. His dad didn't even bother to take a day off while easy child was there. easy child never talks about his dad in a bad way to his friends. But, he's been telling them recently all of this stuff. I think he's about done.