easy child's Letter (proud Mom moment)

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Hound dog, Aug 26, 2008.

  1. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Here is the email easy child sent off to stepgfg a few moments ago. Wow.

    She said it all pretty much in a nutshell.
  2. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Hope the email helps easy child move on....... I would imagine she won't be hearing from difficult child........... and if she does, it sounds like she will keep her guard up.......... Sorry she had to learn about difficult children the hard way........
  3. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Kudos to easy child. I agree, she probably wont' get an answer (unless it's an ugly, mean one), but I hope it helped her say what she needed to say.
  4. HereWeGoAgain

    HereWeGoAgain Grandpa

    Very good. I hope it helped to get that off her chest. Stepgfg ought to be hanging her head in shame.

    The description of how the apartment and trailer were left hit home for me -- been there done that. A long time ago I helped my dad manage some rental properties. They were low-rent, but in decent condition, clean and safe. We had renters skip out just ahead of being evicted a couple of times. Dad tried to work with them for months and months, accepting partial payments and waiving late fees, etc., but to no avail. After they ran it fell to my lot to go clean the places up. One woman left a puppy behind. Her water had been shut off, and she left a mess in the toilet, so the poor thing had no water or food for a couple of days before I found her, still alive. I cleaned her up, fed and watered her, and took her to PAWS... But anyway, the condition those places were in had to be seen to be believed. Every horizontal surface literally covered with trash, rotting food left out, dog and cat feces and urine everywhere. And the stench -- I'm talking wipe Vicks under your nose and duck outside for fresh air every few minutes. Not to mention the roaches and fleas. Both times were in the summer, and I had to dress in long sleeves and pants and wear rubber gloves and face mask to clear the places out. I must have sweated two gallons a day. It took two weeks, and five times the amount of the damage deposit, to clean and fix the place the puppy was left in. I think I would die of pure shame to live like that.
  5. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    Glad easy child was able to get all that out. Hope it helps her.

  6. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Wow. That's a beautiful letter. I know most people wouldn't think so, but for her to be so honest and concise is a wonderful thing for her to do for your family. Like Crazy says, Step difficult child may answer with venom, but my guess is that she will write back a "poor poor pitiful me, why doesn't anyone understand?" note.
  7. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    I also thought the letter was beautiful. It's not easy to covey those types of feelings and such without getting ugly.

    Unknown to me, Nichole had also sent her own email off to stepgfg. Being Nichole, she did not sugar coat a thing. Hers was similar to easy child's except that she told stepgfg she needed to understand that she and easy child expect to to take responsibility for what she did, not waltz back so many years later and expect everyone to be gushing over her.

    Stepgfg did write back to Nichole that she wasn't wanting anything. That her statements about the kids needing things and such were just because things are tough right now, not because she wanted Nichole to feel sorry for her.
    I'm sure stepgfg is feeling very attacked tonight. More than likely feeling very sorry for herself, although both girls told her they wouldn't mind to continue talking with her.


    I doubt we'll hear from her again either. Unless, of course, she honestly wants to rebuild family relationships.

  8. janebrain

    janebrain New Member

    Hi Lisa,
    what a great letter! I am so glad both Nichole and easy child are able to set their boundaries and hope it helps them to be able to move on. It will be interesting to see if stepgfg contacts them again. Let us know!
  9. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    I think it's excellent how perfectly worded all of easy child's feelings were. It was a well written letter, not all over the place with facts and feelings. I think that no matter how it's received by difficult child, this letter was way more important for easy child. I'm glad for all of you.
  10. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    So this is your kid that doesn't just get to the point?

    Can't wait to see the reply - really!

    BRAVO easy child - well done!