questions, thoughts, advice.. About 5 years ago I was going through a very difficult time at my job (of 18 years. supervisor) and altimately lost my job. husband's company was bought out and shut down. difficult child was at the height of his gfgness, and easy child was in college and had to quit due to money. Almost lost the house. I broke out in severe exzema. No idea why. Stress???? would that cause it? AFter many dr. appointments and different medication I ended up with light treatment. dr. had me take something to make my skin sensitive to light. After a few treatments it was gone. Never to return. The last few months, easy child has been super itchy. Looks like he broke out with the same. He has tried benadryl, topical ointments with no relief. He doesn't live at home, has a crummy job, bill collectors up in his face. He is going through a really rough time and has decided not to talk to me. It breaks my heart and I miss him every single day. Could this be stress? He has no insurance and cannot afford to go to the doctor. I text him, I email him with no response. I call him and he doesn't answer. I leave him messages and he does not acknowledge. I miss him. I think I am in mom mode here. I want to take care of him, make him better but don't know how. He has never been like this. He said some horrible things to me. Like what a lousy mother I am...and much more. Do you think if I purchased tanning sessions for him and he did that, would that help the exzema? Are the lights similiar to that at the dermatologist? He would not have the medicine making him sensitive to light, but do you think it would help? This whole tiff started because difficult child, was difficult child and we fought. I would lose it and we would fight. easy child was here for some of it. Then he moved out. Still kept in contact with difficult child. Then difficult child texted him during another fight and easy child laid into me. Next time difficult child was having a meltdown he again text easy child. easy child laid into him. Now, easy child is again dating a previous girlfriend that he KNOWS none of us like. She is pretty, has a good job...but just does not treat him good at all. Stuck up... How do I get my son back? How do I help him. easy child would come over to do laundry when we were both working. He would eat too. (Leave the dishes) We began to notice money missing. difficult child's money, our little box for emergencies. My stash of coins. So both myslef and husband asked if he borrowed any money. He said no. That was the last time he spoke to any of us. And he and husband always got along and always spoke. difficult child just says "he'll get over it". But it has been a long time and I miss him.