jcox
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Last week my son had his first appointment with his new counselor. It was mostly an intake with lots of questions etc. She told me she had a lot of knowledge of children with his diagnoses including bipolar. He was a little hyper, but there were no big issues. This week he went for his second appointment. I went in for the first twenty minutes he was fine like the perfect child sitting in a chair coloring. Then she wanted to see him alone because that is how they do it there. They like to see the children individually. That lasted about three maybe four minutes tops. She came out to get me. As soon as I left he tried to call 911. She told him he could not do that but he insisted. After she told him he could not use the phone he pulled her glasses off her face, quickly broke them, tried to bite her, threw things all over her room including her papers and a lamp, grabbed her vaginal area and breasts, and tried to hit her with the lamp. The counselor and the director told me that Elijah can't come there anymore, that they can not meet his needs, and that outpatient counseling will not be beneficial for him. I was amazed how quickly they could kick him out. I tried telling them that he might do better if I went in with him next time, but they told me that they would not be able to do therapy that way. On our way out Elijah turned around because the director was following us and he gets nervous with people behind him. He just turned to see who was there and I never seen somebody jump so high. She seemed scared of my six year old! Then I had him sit down to put his boots on. He was trying to open the toy box and she was closing it on his hand without telling him anything. I told the director that it makes no sense to me that they are not helping the children who need it most. That is a children's counseling center that this happened at. As soon as we got outside he was very calm. He told me that he hates that place and never wanted to go again. He told me that he wanted to go see his old counselor. I called the counselor later in the afternoon just to clearify what happened. She said everything happened almost instantaneously and that she was frightened he was going to hurt himself or her. I explained to her how he loves to test new people. Also how he does not like new people or places. We had left his last counselor before this one because she told me she did not know how to help him and that we needed somebody with more expertise. I did not think she was getting very far with him, but atleast she had the patience to deal with him. He acted up in her office sometimes and she would just do the therapeutic hold with him to help him calm his body. She never kicked him out. We learned that sessions went better if I or my hubby went in with him though. She told me she would take him back. I am confused about if that is what would be best for him. Atleast he had a connection with her and often greeted her with hugs. He did not talk much about things with her though, but was begining to identify the feeling face pictures before we left. That was something he has always had a hard time with was how other people feel. He has no clue. He has always been in his own little world. I am still amazed how quickly the center kicked him out. His old counselor told me she would take him back, but I wonder what is best? Maybe his new psychiatrist in Boston and his team could give the old counselor some ideas about how to work with him.
Janice
Janice