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Castle Queen
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Knight is balking at going to his social skills class. Im wondering if any of you have encountered anything similar when your difficult childs have become aware that they are different and receiving accommodations- have they ever refused the accommodation/intervention due to embarrassment? How have you handled this?
The social skills group meets once a week and supposedly teaches friendship skills. Its currently the only social intervention the school will provide (and I had to wrangle to get this because the grant for the program somehow was not renewed for the year he started first grade- it was the year before, and the year after, but not for his year. I got him in because Sprite participates.) Each week, the participants are able to invite a friend and they go have lunch with the group and meet for a short time to discuss whatever the topic of the week is. Yesterday, I got a call from the leader that Knight refused to go. She had to come get him (not the first time), he had no friend with him, and he stood outside the classroom and refused to go in. He opted for a stay with the principal instead.
Discussing it later with Knight, his friend that he always invites had declined to go this week. He wouldnt ask anyone else because Im embarrassed, they will make fun of me, and why do I need to go anyway? I replied as gently as possible that the group would help him learn to make and keep friends, and wouldnt it be fun to have someone to do things with outside of school.
I dont know if the school should make him go or how to ease his concerns or what to advise the teachers involved. He doesnt want to go to the group alone. I have just recently gotten him to reveal that 2 boys in his class are teasing him, one keeps flipping the hood on his sweatshirt down, and the other teases him about his compulsive hair-smoothing ritual he seems to be developing as a way to cope with stress. Im afraid this is just going to get worse. Help!
The social skills group meets once a week and supposedly teaches friendship skills. Its currently the only social intervention the school will provide (and I had to wrangle to get this because the grant for the program somehow was not renewed for the year he started first grade- it was the year before, and the year after, but not for his year. I got him in because Sprite participates.) Each week, the participants are able to invite a friend and they go have lunch with the group and meet for a short time to discuss whatever the topic of the week is. Yesterday, I got a call from the leader that Knight refused to go. She had to come get him (not the first time), he had no friend with him, and he stood outside the classroom and refused to go in. He opted for a stay with the principal instead.
Discussing it later with Knight, his friend that he always invites had declined to go this week. He wouldnt ask anyone else because Im embarrassed, they will make fun of me, and why do I need to go anyway? I replied as gently as possible that the group would help him learn to make and keep friends, and wouldnt it be fun to have someone to do things with outside of school.
I dont know if the school should make him go or how to ease his concerns or what to advise the teachers involved. He doesnt want to go to the group alone. I have just recently gotten him to reveal that 2 boys in his class are teasing him, one keeps flipping the hood on his sweatshirt down, and the other teases him about his compulsive hair-smoothing ritual he seems to be developing as a way to cope with stress. Im afraid this is just going to get worse. Help!