BusynMember
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I am reading an amazing book, Eastern philosophy, which is really about panic disorder, but is applicable to how we can change our attitude about how we see our FOO and kids. It is so powerful that after I finished the first thing I thought was, "I will drive." I will try to explain it.
In martial arts, you try to stay on your feet, but often find yourself on the mat. Embrace the mat. Don't get angry at it or yourself. It is a challenge to try again and do better. A reminder. A necessity. Instead of avoiding or hiding from your opponent, face him. Grab his hand. Don't take the passive approach yet don't be angry. We can do this. Fear causes panic and fear of others. Reach out, but in our minds. No active aggression.
I don't know if I explained this well or if it helped anyone else. I was already pretty far into healing before my accident. This will help me regarding my sister, who reminds me of my mother, and does underhaned things and is my biggest challenge. I will have to embrace and accept who she is and welcome it so I can just move on and prove to myself that I can. She is the last of my nemeses. I barely remember I have a brother.
I will embrace my past and my FOO. I would not be ME if they had not been THEM. I like who I am so there is good in learning to deal with chronic maltreatment and being belittled. I really believe that.
My FOO journey has been a necessary path and Cedar and Copa were with me all the way and it really worked for me. Not 100%, but nothing is 100%. I thank them once again.
Well, good morning to all and hope you all have a wonderful day, full of sunshine
In martial arts, you try to stay on your feet, but often find yourself on the mat. Embrace the mat. Don't get angry at it or yourself. It is a challenge to try again and do better. A reminder. A necessity. Instead of avoiding or hiding from your opponent, face him. Grab his hand. Don't take the passive approach yet don't be angry. We can do this. Fear causes panic and fear of others. Reach out, but in our minds. No active aggression.
I don't know if I explained this well or if it helped anyone else. I was already pretty far into healing before my accident. This will help me regarding my sister, who reminds me of my mother, and does underhaned things and is my biggest challenge. I will have to embrace and accept who she is and welcome it so I can just move on and prove to myself that I can. She is the last of my nemeses. I barely remember I have a brother.
I will embrace my past and my FOO. I would not be ME if they had not been THEM. I like who I am so there is good in learning to deal with chronic maltreatment and being belittled. I really believe that.
My FOO journey has been a necessary path and Cedar and Copa were with me all the way and it really worked for me. Not 100%, but nothing is 100%. I thank them once again.
Well, good morning to all and hope you all have a wonderful day, full of sunshine