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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 22129" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>Sorry DDD, but I disagree!</p><p></p><p>Janet I don't think your expectations are too high for a mature woman. </p><p>in my humble opinion if you are involved with boyfriend and you two are in a committed relationship, in no way is a "friendship" with a divorced, lonely woman okay.</p><p></p><p>We all have baggage we bring into relationships.</p><p>That doesn't mean you have to compromise your expectations in your chosen mate.</p><p></p><p>The biggest thing to me is trust. I have been in an abusive relationship (biodad to kids) and then in the crazy circus of emotions I shared in the above post.</p><p>I know in those to relationships I compromised my standards, and I felt like I had to play the cards I was given. </p><p></p><p>I was wrong.</p><p></p><p>My husband had deep faith based raising. He suffered with family deaths in early age. His bro was turned into a quad after a bullfighting accident and he and his sister in law were caretakers until his death. He turned to meth to keep up with the demands of working and caring for his brother.</p><p>I met him @ work. He was in the midst of hitting the bottom.</p><p>I was freshly shattered from the move away from my boyfriend.</p><p>Well, I started my "saving his life" saga.</p><p>One thing led to another and a extended family intervention was done.</p><p>We began dating after that. </p><p>We both did bible study groups, we did before marriage counseling with our pastor and we were married about a yr and half later.</p><p>The first four yrs were spent with me trying to "learn" how to trust him. My exh abused drugs as much as he abused me and I had alot of issues.</p><p>I believe we found our way through church and scripture.</p><p>He is a godly man that came back to his godly ways and he understands my "need" sometimes for reassurance.</p><p></p><p>It is rocky at this point, but that is from us not being in church as we should and the wonderful little things that my difficult child springs on us.</p><p></p><p>You follow your heart and don't ever compromise with your standards!!!</p><p>You should be treated as a queen, you have suffered enough heartache, never let a man give you more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 22129, member: 2389"] Sorry DDD, but I disagree! Janet I don't think your expectations are too high for a mature woman. in my humble opinion if you are involved with boyfriend and you two are in a committed relationship, in no way is a "friendship" with a divorced, lonely woman okay. We all have baggage we bring into relationships. That doesn't mean you have to compromise your expectations in your chosen mate. The biggest thing to me is trust. I have been in an abusive relationship (biodad to kids) and then in the crazy circus of emotions I shared in the above post. I know in those to relationships I compromised my standards, and I felt like I had to play the cards I was given. I was wrong. My husband had deep faith based raising. He suffered with family deaths in early age. His bro was turned into a quad after a bullfighting accident and he and his sister in law were caretakers until his death. He turned to meth to keep up with the demands of working and caring for his brother. I met him @ work. He was in the midst of hitting the bottom. I was freshly shattered from the move away from my boyfriend. Well, I started my "saving his life" saga. One thing led to another and a extended family intervention was done. We began dating after that. We both did bible study groups, we did before marriage counseling with our pastor and we were married about a yr and half later. The first four yrs were spent with me trying to "learn" how to trust him. My exh abused drugs as much as he abused me and I had alot of issues. I believe we found our way through church and scripture. He is a godly man that came back to his godly ways and he understands my "need" sometimes for reassurance. It is rocky at this point, but that is from us not being in church as we should and the wonderful little things that my difficult child springs on us. You follow your heart and don't ever compromise with your standards!!! You should be treated as a queen, you have suffered enough heartache, never let a man give you more. [/QUOTE]
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