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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 664314" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>It is late and I am tired, but I will start here:</p><p></p><p>"Chronically traumatized people often exhibit hyper-vigilant, anxious and agitated behavior, symptoms such as tension headaches, gastrointestinal disturbances, abdominal pain, back pain, tremors and nausea."</p><p></p><p>I suffer every one of these symptoms except the tremors. Instead of those I get hives.</p><p></p><p>I am an empath. Most of my career I worked in a profession that for me is founded upon empathy, but not often is.</p><p></p><p>I have been directly the target of the Sociopathic sting, by colleagues.</p><p></p><p>My profession requires significant private contact. I enjoy my work and I connect to the people I see.</p><p></p><p>Frequently that is perceived to be potentially illicit, at least suspicious.</p><p></p><p>I understand this. But I do not change the way I work. I defy it. Not flagrantly. But I do what is necessary to do my job. I am unafraid. I know that there are risks to me. I do not take them seriously. I will not compromise the essence of my work.</p><p></p><p>To a sociopath, the empathy as if gives off a scent. It was described to me as a visceral response. A feeling in the gut. That something suspicious is going on. A crossing of a boundary. Empathy. It is the signal to attack.</p><p></p><p>The story I will tell you is too complicated to relate right now. There was a triad. An apath, a sociopath and an empath. There was also a set up. And lies.</p><p></p><p>I stood my ground. Actually, I am proud right now. It was scary. I was interrogated.</p><p></p><p>I turned the tables. I accused the investigator of prohibiting me from doing my job. I told him that I would report him if he continued to obstruct my ability to work.</p><p></p><p>Actually, now I am remembering another similar even scarier incident.</p><p></p><p>And I am wondering if I am a masochist to put myself in situations where I am attacked for being who I am. For working.</p><p></p><p>I see it as a strengthening process. An opportunity to define myself. To become myself. Not just to see who I am. To create myself. By deciding how to be and who to be. And to decide how to respond when challenged.</p><p></p><p>In my life I was not always able to choose who to be. It was forced upon me by circumstance.</p><p></p><p>One does not become themselves watching TV (or in bed). We know ourselves by where we go, what we do and how. Do we take the high or low road? Do we go along or not? Alone or with the crowd? How do we speak to power, and what do we say? Do we take the easy way out or take a stand?</p><p></p><p>Maybe it is because I was abused repeatedly as a child, I seem to have needed to test myself. To see if I am a coward or a victim, I am not sure.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps I choose to test others. To see first hand their morality or cruelty or their courage.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is not fair. Maybe one should expect and assume the kindness and goodness of others. I do not. I know better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 664314, member: 18958"] It is late and I am tired, but I will start here: "Chronically traumatized people often exhibit hyper-vigilant, anxious and agitated behavior, symptoms such as tension headaches, gastrointestinal disturbances, abdominal pain, back pain, tremors and nausea." I suffer every one of these symptoms except the tremors. Instead of those I get hives. I am an empath. Most of my career I worked in a profession that for me is founded upon empathy, but not often is. I have been directly the target of the Sociopathic sting, by colleagues. My profession requires significant private contact. I enjoy my work and I connect to the people I see. Frequently that is perceived to be potentially illicit, at least suspicious. I understand this. But I do not change the way I work. I defy it. Not flagrantly. But I do what is necessary to do my job. I am unafraid. I know that there are risks to me. I do not take them seriously. I will not compromise the essence of my work. To a sociopath, the empathy as if gives off a scent. It was described to me as a visceral response. A feeling in the gut. That something suspicious is going on. A crossing of a boundary. Empathy. It is the signal to attack. The story I will tell you is too complicated to relate right now. There was a triad. An apath, a sociopath and an empath. There was also a set up. And lies. I stood my ground. Actually, I am proud right now. It was scary. I was interrogated. I turned the tables. I accused the investigator of prohibiting me from doing my job. I told him that I would report him if he continued to obstruct my ability to work. Actually, now I am remembering another similar even scarier incident. And I am wondering if I am a masochist to put myself in situations where I am attacked for being who I am. For working. I see it as a strengthening process. An opportunity to define myself. To become myself. Not just to see who I am. To create myself. By deciding how to be and who to be. And to decide how to respond when challenged. In my life I was not always able to choose who to be. It was forced upon me by circumstance. One does not become themselves watching TV (or in bed). We know ourselves by where we go, what we do and how. Do we take the high or low road? Do we go along or not? Alone or with the crowd? How do we speak to power, and what do we say? Do we take the easy way out or take a stand? Maybe it is because I was abused repeatedly as a child, I seem to have needed to test myself. To see if I am a coward or a victim, I am not sure. Perhaps I choose to test others. To see first hand their morality or cruelty or their courage. Maybe this is not fair. Maybe one should expect and assume the kindness and goodness of others. I do not. I know better. [/QUOTE]
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