Mom2oddson
Active Member
I know this is more typical teen stuff but after years of difficult child stuff..... I have NO desire to deal with a minute of it!
Steph is back living at home. And she's had her last day of school yesterday. Her grad party is Sunday and graduation is Monday.
She went out last night and sent a text at 11pm saying she was staying the night (only cuz we had a discussion on Monday about NOT telling me that she was staying out). So this morning I sent her a text to please be home at 4:30 so we could talk. I get back a "K".
3:30 today (Steph) I have to meet my boss in 30 minutes to get paid.
4:30 (me) Still waiting for xxxx?
4:40 (st) She's on here way now.
4:41 (me) see you in a few.
5:20 (steph) Hey I'm going to a bbq tonight for my friends grad.
5:20 (me) Are you going to stop by first so we can talk?
5:30 (me) repeat
5:50 (steph) I don't plan on being there for more than a few hours.
5:50 (me) Please do hurry home. I've already put 20 hours into planning/shopping for your party and there is a lot still to do. I won't do it all alone. And next time, tell your friend that you will be late because it's important to keep your word with your mom....it's that respect thing.
6:20 (steph) I'm turning around now, be home shortly. (turns out husband called her)
The thing was, she didn't need to turn around. I just wanted a few minutes of her time to discuss when I would need her help. She apologized. But said, she's not used to answering to anyone, she hasn't for FIVE years....whatever. And her life is so busy and so on and so on. She's heading back to her friends party now.
Oh and really ****** her off by saying that the only nights she could sleep over at friends house is Friday and Saturday. She works weekends and whatever...she'll figure something out.
I don't know what it is about my house, but any time my kids move back home they became stupid, irresponsible, etc.....
On the plus side...I'm using the one ready to say "enough" and I have to drag husband with me. Since he dealt with Ant last year, he's got his warrior Dad hat on! He says she needs to figure out how to show respect very quickly or she will either be paying rent plus expenses or she will find herself kicked out! I'm really impressed with husband......and ****** at Steph. Uhg!!!
Steph is back living at home. And she's had her last day of school yesterday. Her grad party is Sunday and graduation is Monday.
She went out last night and sent a text at 11pm saying she was staying the night (only cuz we had a discussion on Monday about NOT telling me that she was staying out). So this morning I sent her a text to please be home at 4:30 so we could talk. I get back a "K".
3:30 today (Steph) I have to meet my boss in 30 minutes to get paid.
4:30 (me) Still waiting for xxxx?
4:40 (st) She's on here way now.
4:41 (me) see you in a few.
5:20 (steph) Hey I'm going to a bbq tonight for my friends grad.
5:20 (me) Are you going to stop by first so we can talk?
5:30 (me) repeat
5:50 (steph) I don't plan on being there for more than a few hours.
5:50 (me) Please do hurry home. I've already put 20 hours into planning/shopping for your party and there is a lot still to do. I won't do it all alone. And next time, tell your friend that you will be late because it's important to keep your word with your mom....it's that respect thing.
6:20 (steph) I'm turning around now, be home shortly. (turns out husband called her)
The thing was, she didn't need to turn around. I just wanted a few minutes of her time to discuss when I would need her help. She apologized. But said, she's not used to answering to anyone, she hasn't for FIVE years....whatever. And her life is so busy and so on and so on. She's heading back to her friends party now.
Oh and really ****** her off by saying that the only nights she could sleep over at friends house is Friday and Saturday. She works weekends and whatever...she'll figure something out.
I don't know what it is about my house, but any time my kids move back home they became stupid, irresponsible, etc.....
On the plus side...I'm using the one ready to say "enough" and I have to drag husband with me. Since he dealt with Ant last year, he's got his warrior Dad hat on! He says she needs to figure out how to show respect very quickly or she will either be paying rent plus expenses or she will find herself kicked out! I'm really impressed with husband......and ****** at Steph. Uhg!!!