Hello all, I am at the end of my rope; I think. Everytime I say that I find a little more rope to hang on to. Anyway. I am 43 married with two kids, one, what's the abbreviation? easy child (perfect child) and one difficult child (disaster). The easy child is going to college in another state and is as happy as can be. My difficult child is 16 and a total wreck. He is ADHD and ODD (not offically diagnosed) addicted to pot and a complete . Our latest episode started last Thursday. I get a call at work from my wife. difficult child is being himself because my wife woke up to find him in bed with a girlfriend(he couldn't even remember the girl's name). She tried to get the girlfriend to leave, that's when difficult child flipped out because she was embarrassing him. I started throwing things and being totally unruly and disrespectful. He threw the car keys in my wife's face. She had to wait outside in her pajamas while one of her co-workers could come by. I come home (45 miles) to find him gone. Brother-in-law came by to take WF(*****-friend) home. I notice my wife's car was damaged; again. This time he took a hacksaw and tried to hot-wire it. The ignition was completely ruined. We had to get a tow truck to take it to the dealer. $850. I woke up Friday morning 2:30am to the smell of smoke. Him and two of his new (can't seem to maintain friends) were having a cig/weed party in my family room. My wife kicked the "friends" out. Yesterday he started in on my wife again about money. He was trying to find new things in the house to sell. He already sold our Xbox360 and numerous other things not to mention my wife's $500 coin collection. He tried walking out with one of my PCs guitars. I stopped that. I really just want him to call his PO and let him go to juvenile hall even though it's going to cost me big time (~$15k a month). He has been once for 20 days which supposedly will cost me $9k, but I haven't received a bill yet.) We are lying to his PO to protect him, but I am really just sick of it. We covered up holes in the walls when he came over. I'm done with that and done reparing them. I am considering leaving. If I stay things will get uglier. One of us will end up in jail or the hospital. We were kind of hoping that we had given him enough rope to hang himself but it's taking too long or he's learned to be a little more cautious (been to court for 4 or so seperate incedences). What to do?