Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Ending one horrible journey, beginning another.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 630049" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>I'm so sorry that you are going through this and I know you feel tortured. From your story I would agree that you have done your best and more to try and save him from himself, but if your difficult child is like mine, he will do what he wants to do WHEN he wants to and not really think of the consequences, or what kind of pain he is inflicting on you. </p><p></p><p>Could he have gone to a friend's house? Or to the homeless shelter you told him about? Maybe the leaving without any possessions was just a lack of impulse control, plus a "punishment" for you, for making him try and face his reality? </p><p></p><p>Is it possible that he left the essentials behind so that he has an excuse to return home?</p><p></p><p>The "not knowing" is so very difficult. Your stomach is in knots and you feel like your bowels are frozen. You can't really relax until you know where they are, what they are doing, if they are safe.</p><p></p><p>I am no good at giving advice, as I have felt this way many times and haven't managed to conquer my fears. I can only send you hugs and support. I think Time is the only thing that helps us heal-whether it's them contacting us, or us hearing about them through other people, or that we just get used to that feeling of unease. If we are lucky we can distract ourselves and try to put the focus on others, especially if we have other kids. Often when we DO reconnect with them and hear what they were doing in that period of no contact, we are amazed that they were fine. Not living as WE would, but were able to be resourceful and continue on that strange pretzel-like path that gives them comfort in a way that we don't seem to be able to provide.</p><p></p><p>I will keep you in my thoughts and hope you will update and post whatever you are going through. I can't tell you how often I come here for solace and empathy and there are so many experienced posters here who can point us in the right direction and give us hope!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 630049, member: 13561"] I'm so sorry that you are going through this and I know you feel tortured. From your story I would agree that you have done your best and more to try and save him from himself, but if your difficult child is like mine, he will do what he wants to do WHEN he wants to and not really think of the consequences, or what kind of pain he is inflicting on you. Could he have gone to a friend's house? Or to the homeless shelter you told him about? Maybe the leaving without any possessions was just a lack of impulse control, plus a "punishment" for you, for making him try and face his reality? Is it possible that he left the essentials behind so that he has an excuse to return home? The "not knowing" is so very difficult. Your stomach is in knots and you feel like your bowels are frozen. You can't really relax until you know where they are, what they are doing, if they are safe. I am no good at giving advice, as I have felt this way many times and haven't managed to conquer my fears. I can only send you hugs and support. I think Time is the only thing that helps us heal-whether it's them contacting us, or us hearing about them through other people, or that we just get used to that feeling of unease. If we are lucky we can distract ourselves and try to put the focus on others, especially if we have other kids. Often when we DO reconnect with them and hear what they were doing in that period of no contact, we are amazed that they were fine. Not living as WE would, but were able to be resourceful and continue on that strange pretzel-like path that gives them comfort in a way that we don't seem to be able to provide. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope you will update and post whatever you are going through. I can't tell you how often I come here for solace and empathy and there are so many experienced posters here who can point us in the right direction and give us hope! [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Ending one horrible journey, beginning another.
Top