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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 640483" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>I experienced this with my first husband. He did and does live in his own version of reality. </p><p></p><p>Not telling your girls the true reason for the divorce was very convenient for him wasn't it? That's typical of manipulative people who don't want to take responsibility and want to hide their unacceptable behaviour so that they can then create, or maintain, their 'nice person' charade. With hindsight it would have been better to be truthful at the time, but we all do things that we would change with hindsight.</p><p></p><p>You can tell your daughters the truth now, but you can't force them to believe it. Teenage girls are difficult at the best of times and falling out with mothers is par for the course. Maybe you should concentrate on living your own life and let them launch into adulthood. I found that engaging with the gaslighting was pointless. I found that it got a bit scary being dragged into someone else's parallel universe actually. You can begin to doubt your own sanity.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, don't play their game. State your facts and leave it at that. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>How great! Enjoy your life Meghan, and if your daughters want to be part of it as respectful loving adults then fine, but don't engage with all this nonsense.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 640483, member: 17650"] I experienced this with my first husband. He did and does live in his own version of reality. Not telling your girls the true reason for the divorce was very convenient for him wasn't it? That's typical of manipulative people who don't want to take responsibility and want to hide their unacceptable behaviour so that they can then create, or maintain, their 'nice person' charade. With hindsight it would have been better to be truthful at the time, but we all do things that we would change with hindsight. You can tell your daughters the truth now, but you can't force them to believe it. Teenage girls are difficult at the best of times and falling out with mothers is par for the course. Maybe you should concentrate on living your own life and let them launch into adulthood. I found that engaging with the gaslighting was pointless. I found that it got a bit scary being dragged into someone else's parallel universe actually. You can begin to doubt your own sanity. Yes, don't play their game. State your facts and leave it at that. How great! Enjoy your life Meghan, and if your daughters want to be part of it as respectful loving adults then fine, but don't engage with all this nonsense. [/QUOTE]
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