Entitlement to Heal

Discussion in 'Family of Origin' started by Scent of Cedar *, Mar 16, 2016.

  1. Scent of Cedar *

    Scent of Cedar * Well-Known Member

  2. Copabanana

    Copabanana Well-Known Member

    Thank you Cedar.

    Ultimately a hopeful post. It is so interesting to me that we can recognize each other here virtually and in real life no.

  3. New Leaf

    New Leaf Well-Known Member

    I am thinking on this in reverse concept too, that as my children go through their lives and make horrible choices, suffer the consequences of them, my reaction is despair, anxiety and grief, in turn, because they suffer, am I feeling that I am not entitled to heal?

    I know this is not the gist of your post, but reflecting on it in both perspectives here......
    Thank you Cedar
  4. Scent of Cedar *

    Scent of Cedar * Well-Known Member

    This is very true, Leafy.

    We prevent our healing on many levels. Or maybe, it is like we get stuck in places we cannot think our ways through. Maybe, we believe ourselves to be cutting a bargain with God. Saying "Take me, instead." But the truth is that each of us is meant to heal and to be whole and to be strong, so we can make a difference for ourselves and for one another.

    I think we are choosing to make that decision, every one of us here on Conduct Disorders. We are not so used to accepting what is.

    But I am struggling too, like everyone.