good morning,
i've been posting alot lately hey this is what it's here for, right? lol........i'm just frustrated today as most days.
the situatoin i'm currently living in isn't the right one for us. i had posted a very long post the other day explaining where i've been what's occured with my duaghter, etc.
i'm living with my boyfriend not through choice because i spent way too much money last year on out of pocket doctor's trying to diagnose her, cut my work hours to be more accessible and basically got booted out of where we live.
i've tried keeping the peace where i am just so as not to affect my little one who is going to be 9. yet it's hard he yells at me everytime we try to communicate about anything at all. i've noticed that once he yells at me raised voice even because my tone is usually very low and calm she flies into some sort of obsessive episode over just about anything. i've explained to him repeatedly my need to keep a calm household for her. he can't seem to control himself. he's not abusive or anything, none of that's gone on. he just lies about everything under the sun and i've learned that he is not the one, i made a rash decision based on lack of finances and no family or friends willing to help and i will be getting out of this as soon as i can up my credit score, save money, etc.
he lies about woman that he talks to, and texts i do not believe that he is cheating yet at this point it doesnt' even matter. point is he lies and lies and lies some more.
it is so very possible that she is being affected now by this, isn't it? it hasn't always been like this but lately it has been. he got upset at me yesterday morning for something and i said to him ther'e sno reason to get loud just use your words and express how you feel yet he flies off hte handle quite alot. she hears it and gets mad at me blaming me for it i try to explain to her that i am sorry that sometimes people loose their cool, etc.
i need to get out of this i have now realized more than ever and with help of a few members here that thsi is not a proper environment for my little girl who struggles everyday wtihout the pressure of hearing his big mouth.
i would like some help with this transition. i'm working with my therapist weekly, yet we all have these children, the children of which we work daily with try to be patient with, etc. her pediatrician pysch says that change right now is very bad for her, yet listening to her mom not be able to communicate with another adult in the house hold is not good for her, plus it is teaching her bad interaction skills which she has trouble with to begin with.
i've actually thoght of moving into my friends for a while, but that would be two transitions one from here to there and then to a place of our own. like i said it's not an unsafe place there is absolutley no physical violence or abuse he'd never do that. yet emotionally it's not good for her.
what do you think? keep trying to keep the peace till i get out, or move out to a friends to contain things then move again? i dotn' want to worsen her symptoms she is the absoloute most important thing to me and my other daughter.
thanks
JEn
i've been posting alot lately hey this is what it's here for, right? lol........i'm just frustrated today as most days.
the situatoin i'm currently living in isn't the right one for us. i had posted a very long post the other day explaining where i've been what's occured with my duaghter, etc.
i'm living with my boyfriend not through choice because i spent way too much money last year on out of pocket doctor's trying to diagnose her, cut my work hours to be more accessible and basically got booted out of where we live.
i've tried keeping the peace where i am just so as not to affect my little one who is going to be 9. yet it's hard he yells at me everytime we try to communicate about anything at all. i've noticed that once he yells at me raised voice even because my tone is usually very low and calm she flies into some sort of obsessive episode over just about anything. i've explained to him repeatedly my need to keep a calm household for her. he can't seem to control himself. he's not abusive or anything, none of that's gone on. he just lies about everything under the sun and i've learned that he is not the one, i made a rash decision based on lack of finances and no family or friends willing to help and i will be getting out of this as soon as i can up my credit score, save money, etc.
he lies about woman that he talks to, and texts i do not believe that he is cheating yet at this point it doesnt' even matter. point is he lies and lies and lies some more.
it is so very possible that she is being affected now by this, isn't it? it hasn't always been like this but lately it has been. he got upset at me yesterday morning for something and i said to him ther'e sno reason to get loud just use your words and express how you feel yet he flies off hte handle quite alot. she hears it and gets mad at me blaming me for it i try to explain to her that i am sorry that sometimes people loose their cool, etc.
i need to get out of this i have now realized more than ever and with help of a few members here that thsi is not a proper environment for my little girl who struggles everyday wtihout the pressure of hearing his big mouth.
i would like some help with this transition. i'm working with my therapist weekly, yet we all have these children, the children of which we work daily with try to be patient with, etc. her pediatrician pysch says that change right now is very bad for her, yet listening to her mom not be able to communicate with another adult in the house hold is not good for her, plus it is teaching her bad interaction skills which she has trouble with to begin with.
i've actually thoght of moving into my friends for a while, but that would be two transitions one from here to there and then to a place of our own. like i said it's not an unsafe place there is absolutley no physical violence or abuse he'd never do that. yet emotionally it's not good for her.
what do you think? keep trying to keep the peace till i get out, or move out to a friends to contain things then move again? i dotn' want to worsen her symptoms she is the absoloute most important thing to me and my other daughter.
thanks
JEn