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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638281" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Kids who would actually sneak out the house at 11, in my opinion, need a lot stronger measures than a reward system. I don't think this counselor gets him. If it were me, I'd put an alarm on his bedroom door so he can't sneak out of the house. Id also call the cops if he went missing. He is too young to be running all over the neighborhood doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who. Is he "in" with any older kids. Drugs? Yes, he's young, but my daughter started at 12 and says kids started earlier. Is he ever sexual?</p><p></p><p>Did he have very chaotic early years, like ages infant-three? Is he a danger to your children? Animals? Like fire? Lie a lot? Pee and poop inappropriately? False allegations of abuse to teachers? I ask because you could have a seriously disturbed child here. To me it sounds like more than ODD, but whatever it is called, he is already running his own show...and at such a young age.</p><p></p><p>Who watches him after school while both of you are still at work?</p><p></p><p>Do you want to deal with him long term? He is likely to get worse...your girls can't be too thrilled at having to deal with him. Have they spoken up? The four year old is much younger than him. Would he hurt or molest her? I ask because this happened in my home and often extremely rule resistant, self-centered, disturbed and uber-defiant kids do engage in inappropriate sexual activity/abuse with much younger kids. It's not a given, but it's a red flag for watching her closely, especially at night.</p><p></p><p>Sorry about this chaos. You have much to think over.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638281, member: 1550"] Kids who would actually sneak out the house at 11, in my opinion, need a lot stronger measures than a reward system. I don't think this counselor gets him. If it were me, I'd put an alarm on his bedroom door so he can't sneak out of the house. Id also call the cops if he went missing. He is too young to be running all over the neighborhood doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who. Is he "in" with any older kids. Drugs? Yes, he's young, but my daughter started at 12 and says kids started earlier. Is he ever sexual? Did he have very chaotic early years, like ages infant-three? Is he a danger to your children? Animals? Like fire? Lie a lot? Pee and poop inappropriately? False allegations of abuse to teachers? I ask because you could have a seriously disturbed child here. To me it sounds like more than ODD, but whatever it is called, he is already running his own show...and at such a young age. Who watches him after school while both of you are still at work? Do you want to deal with him long term? He is likely to get worse...your girls can't be too thrilled at having to deal with him. Have they spoken up? The four year old is much younger than him. Would he hurt or molest her? I ask because this happened in my home and often extremely rule resistant, self-centered, disturbed and uber-defiant kids do engage in inappropriate sexual activity/abuse with much younger kids. It's not a given, but it's a red flag for watching her closely, especially at night. Sorry about this chaos. You have much to think over. [/QUOTE]
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