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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 649323" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>We had the cops coming alot too, Done Dad.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you have a man cave!</p><p></p><p>Have you discussed when daughter will move out on her own?</p><p></p><p>Your signature indicates that you are 60. Have you and your wife discussed retirement and bucket lists? If you do, you will begin to see a way out, I think. I am 63. My husband is 68. We have been retired for some time, now. </p><p></p><p>There is a whole, new life out there Done Dad.</p><p></p><p>Even if you cannot go for long, please take your wife and get away somewhere for a weekend ~ a week or ten days, if you can do it. You will come back different people, people who remember themselves and one another as something other than a mom or a dad. (Or worse yet, a grandma and grandpa.)</p><p></p><p>We are all out here, all of us, from so many places in the country and the world, learning to paint and write and sing and play music (in bars!) and kayak and do martial arts and a thousand other things.</p><p></p><p>Changing the way you see yourselves will be your new beginning.</p><p></p><p>I did not want to leave my troubled kids. My husband insisted, and he was right. He did it just that way, Done Dad. A weekend, a week's trip, a few weeks away. </p><p></p><p>Then, we moved.</p><p></p><p>And so, we were able to reclaim our lives.</p><p></p><p>There are still problems, but we have other facets of self to sustain us when things we cannot control happen to our children or our grands.</p><p></p><p>I hear you about the times when our kids are young and we do what we do with and for them, and we spend what we spend and devote the years we devote. Addiction is addiction. No one is protected from it, and no one gets to slip away from it. It is an ugly, terminal disease that destroys individuals and their extended families and their children.</p><p></p><p>I am glad your daughter stopped using while she was pregnant. </p><p></p><p>I love the idea of the man cave!</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>P.S. My D H doesn't have a man cave, but he does have his own bathroom. He decorated it himself. In a pirate motif. So, we have boats and ships and lighthouses in there, and over the toilet, a beautifully worked, one and a half by two foot pirate-like sign that reads, in flowing scroll: "Strong ales and loose women" across the top. And across the bottom? "You are always welcome, here." On the back of the toilet, he has a small wooden chest filled with coins. </p><p></p><p>A dragon holding a glass globe in one claw sits on that.</p><p></p><p>And beside it?</p><p></p><p>A mechanical hanging pirate my husband found somewhere at Halloween. When you push the button? One of the things the swinging, leg kicking pirate says is: "All right! Maybe I did do those things. But I don't get no respect. Arrrgggghhhh!!!"</p><p></p><p>Ya.</p><p></p><p>Those are the kinds of things you and your wife have to look forward to, once the kids are on their own.</p><p></p><p>Pirate bathrooms.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>He has shadow boxes with mounted lures in them, too.</p><p></p><p>Everyone loves D H's bathroom. They always play the pirate.</p><p></p><p>For Heaven's sake.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 649323, member: 17461"] We had the cops coming alot too, Done Dad. I am glad you have a man cave! Have you discussed when daughter will move out on her own? Your signature indicates that you are 60. Have you and your wife discussed retirement and bucket lists? If you do, you will begin to see a way out, I think. I am 63. My husband is 68. We have been retired for some time, now. There is a whole, new life out there Done Dad. Even if you cannot go for long, please take your wife and get away somewhere for a weekend ~ a week or ten days, if you can do it. You will come back different people, people who remember themselves and one another as something other than a mom or a dad. (Or worse yet, a grandma and grandpa.) We are all out here, all of us, from so many places in the country and the world, learning to paint and write and sing and play music (in bars!) and kayak and do martial arts and a thousand other things. Changing the way you see yourselves will be your new beginning. I did not want to leave my troubled kids. My husband insisted, and he was right. He did it just that way, Done Dad. A weekend, a week's trip, a few weeks away. Then, we moved. And so, we were able to reclaim our lives. There are still problems, but we have other facets of self to sustain us when things we cannot control happen to our children or our grands. I hear you about the times when our kids are young and we do what we do with and for them, and we spend what we spend and devote the years we devote. Addiction is addiction. No one is protected from it, and no one gets to slip away from it. It is an ugly, terminal disease that destroys individuals and their extended families and their children. I am glad your daughter stopped using while she was pregnant. I love the idea of the man cave! :O) Cedar P.S. My D H doesn't have a man cave, but he does have his own bathroom. He decorated it himself. In a pirate motif. So, we have boats and ships and lighthouses in there, and over the toilet, a beautifully worked, one and a half by two foot pirate-like sign that reads, in flowing scroll: "Strong ales and loose women" across the top. And across the bottom? "You are always welcome, here." On the back of the toilet, he has a small wooden chest filled with coins. A dragon holding a glass globe in one claw sits on that. And beside it? A mechanical hanging pirate my husband found somewhere at Halloween. When you push the button? One of the things the swinging, leg kicking pirate says is: "All right! Maybe I did do those things. But I don't get no respect. Arrrgggghhhh!!!" Ya. Those are the kinds of things you and your wife have to look forward to, once the kids are on their own. Pirate bathrooms. :O) He has shadow boxes with mounted lures in them, too. Everyone loves D H's bathroom. They always play the pirate. For Heaven's sake. [/QUOTE]
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