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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 725111" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lost, thanks. Of course you are right. I tell others not to have people in their lives if it doesn't serve them well. Then I do it. I tell others nothing changes if WE dont change our behavior toward situations, then so do the same thing that hurt me before soooo many times...lol.</p><p></p><p>My only defenses are that I made mistakes in my life toward this person and feel badly about them, although I have apologized to all I feel I hurt and know when something is on me. Also this person SHOULD be someone I love and value and vice versa in societal terms. Clearly, although with difficulty I forgave her for all those cop calls on me that were insane and that my littles had to see, she still thinks she had good reasons to call the cops!</p><p></p><p> The first time she cut me out of her life and would not talk to me, I did flee to her house and bang on the door and even threw a tennis shoe at her door when she refused to answer. I did not try to break in, but if she was scared then it was my fault...i was distraught, beyond hurt, and on her property so she called the cops. That one time I can say it was possibly warranted. If that haf brrn thr only time she did it, no problem. I never went to her house like that again. Ever.</p><p></p><p>I think she liked the power of cops after that. I got the cops visiting me for phoning her to emailing her. Partly we moved out of Illinois to get awAy from her, but we made up, of course, and when we had another row and I emailed or called her...she called the Wisconsin police!!! Luckily we lived in a small town and knew all three cops well and they sort of laughed about it. But my point is, only the very first time could she have remotely felt "scared." And it's not like I had a history of hurting people. But I still get the first time. The other nine times were simply to teach me a good lesson, so that Id learn to figure out when to call her and ehrn she would call the cops if i did. I never learned the biggest lesson...that she was screwed up and not nice because I gladly took her back each time she came. I never initiated the renewed contact. But I always hoped for the best and forgave her. Always. Like her fool.</p><p></p><p>My Dad is gone. I never have to see her again. Nobody who loves me wants me near her. She is a mess. I can't save her from her man problems and I don't want to listen to her false opinions of me. I am glad I took it low contact this time.</p><p></p><p>I don't mind comments about this from the forum group. I just meant...it is a relief to have a place to go to vent and know that people will care, even if there is no response. My husband just thinks I should dump her for good and i dont like to bug my kids with this stuff. I have two rather close friends. One is sick now. The other i am seeing soon and will definitely tell about this. She is wise, was in a womans support group with me for fifteen years and we know one another's stories very well. We talk about e erything.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, all I can do is pray for the person, wish her well in my prayers, but stay far away. She will never own up to anything nor change her feelings toward me. I can only control myself.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for "listening."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 725111, member: 1550"] Lost, thanks. Of course you are right. I tell others not to have people in their lives if it doesn't serve them well. Then I do it. I tell others nothing changes if WE dont change our behavior toward situations, then so do the same thing that hurt me before soooo many times...lol. My only defenses are that I made mistakes in my life toward this person and feel badly about them, although I have apologized to all I feel I hurt and know when something is on me. Also this person SHOULD be someone I love and value and vice versa in societal terms. Clearly, although with difficulty I forgave her for all those cop calls on me that were insane and that my littles had to see, she still thinks she had good reasons to call the cops! The first time she cut me out of her life and would not talk to me, I did flee to her house and bang on the door and even threw a tennis shoe at her door when she refused to answer. I did not try to break in, but if she was scared then it was my fault...i was distraught, beyond hurt, and on her property so she called the cops. That one time I can say it was possibly warranted. If that haf brrn thr only time she did it, no problem. I never went to her house like that again. Ever. I think she liked the power of cops after that. I got the cops visiting me for phoning her to emailing her. Partly we moved out of Illinois to get awAy from her, but we made up, of course, and when we had another row and I emailed or called her...she called the Wisconsin police!!! Luckily we lived in a small town and knew all three cops well and they sort of laughed about it. But my point is, only the very first time could she have remotely felt "scared." And it's not like I had a history of hurting people. But I still get the first time. The other nine times were simply to teach me a good lesson, so that Id learn to figure out when to call her and ehrn she would call the cops if i did. I never learned the biggest lesson...that she was screwed up and not nice because I gladly took her back each time she came. I never initiated the renewed contact. But I always hoped for the best and forgave her. Always. Like her fool. My Dad is gone. I never have to see her again. Nobody who loves me wants me near her. She is a mess. I can't save her from her man problems and I don't want to listen to her false opinions of me. I am glad I took it low contact this time. I don't mind comments about this from the forum group. I just meant...it is a relief to have a place to go to vent and know that people will care, even if there is no response. My husband just thinks I should dump her for good and i dont like to bug my kids with this stuff. I have two rather close friends. One is sick now. The other i am seeing soon and will definitely tell about this. She is wise, was in a womans support group with me for fifteen years and we know one another's stories very well. We talk about e erything. Meanwhile, all I can do is pray for the person, wish her well in my prayers, but stay far away. She will never own up to anything nor change her feelings toward me. I can only control myself. Thanks for "listening." [/QUOTE]
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