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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 725122" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you, RN. I loved your point. I should have been done maybe not the first time but when she called the cops on me for stupid stuff like phone calls or emails. She knew I had little ones at home but I believe her need to control me through the cops, and I do believe she did it strictly for control, did not give her time to think that maybe the babies would be afraid of the cops. Nor did she care. The cops were nothing to her but a "ha ha" way to control me. That is who she is. I hate to admit it, but that os her. And she thinks she is an empath!!! I disagree!</p><p></p><p>The harder part of all of this circus stuff was/is that rather than her being just a friend, it was and is my sister. My sister who I once adored more than anyone but my kids, even loved her more than my first husband. I wanted her to love me so much that it about killed me the first time she cut me off. I even dissed my sweet brother, whom she disliked, to be in her favor. Shame on me! SHAME! He is the best person ever! I blame myself and kick myself 1000% for that! What a stupid choice I made!</p><p></p><p>Many years have passed. I never really.knew Sister's real self or why she cut me off so much and called the cops even after I moved out of state. There is no way she can claim that I was a threat to hurt her living so far away, not that I ever did even living close by. My husband is a good guy and kind to her face, but in private he loathes her for calling the cops for nothing and scaring our tiny kids by forcing the police to come over. He called her names and still does that I can't print here. But he would be only a gentleman to her face so she thinks he is okay with her. Ha! He thinks she is very sick. My kids all don't like her, but Princess will be cordial to people too to their faces. And she was. Sonic would too. Jumper would basically snub her. Sonic and Jumper were there for the cop visits that were for nothing. My sister is mean to me like my mother was and thinks mean things about me that are not true, like my mother thought. They are a lot alike.</p><p></p><p>I never totally forgave the cop thing. And at this stage of my life, a good one, the only way I would consider her coming back again would be for her to explain and verbalize remorse for her wrongdoings. I already have apologized to her many times. She doesnt think she did anything wrong. Jeez. Delusions much?</p><p></p><p>As it stands....what normal sister calls the cops on a sister for an email??? Or who lives in another state over a phone call? Nobody.</p><p></p><p>It's not normal.</p><p></p><p>My sister, whom I once felt was the strong one in our unstable family, is unable to detach from a Narcicistic man, is stringing along another very nice man while she still talks to and has feelings for the other one (this is so mean to Nice Man, but she always puts herself first) , has eating issues and thinks I am dangerous. Delusional much?</p><p></p><p>She is the one at this point who needs help and I so can't fix her. She doesn't even know she needs the kind of help she needs. She will never acknowledge it. She tried to normalize her inability to break ties with a monster, the narcicist. She is obsessed with him. And she wont tell nice man her truth. I dont think she has romantic feelings for nice man. She will hurt him. She already broke up with nice man once for narcicist. Now she is lying to nice man, making him think he is only one. Hell, she is afraid to tell narcicist there is another man and that she is through with him! Because she doesn't want to lose narcicist, her real love. This nice man talks aboutarrying her, not aware that she loves and talks to narcicist. The nice man will get screwed, like many on her realm. Or she will marry him...he has money...and still talk to narcicist. Morals are not there. This is wrong, no?</p><p></p><p>I am out of there. The past, the present, her thinking about me and just her treatment of nice man...there is no relationship for her and me to build up. We never had one. You don't call the cops on your sister ten or more times for her petty reasons unless you are sick. And you certainly don't deserve to be in my life if you think poorly of me. I like and know myself. I can stay with one kind man for 24 years. Since our marriage, there has only been him. He is the love of my lift. So glad I can love a nice man and that he loves me. </p><p></p><p>HEY, SIS, YOU DON'T DESERVE ME IN YOUR LIFE!</p><p></p><p>Thank you all so much. I needed to get that out. You all helped so much just by hearing me out.</p><p></p><p>Now I can go on with life and read this thread of all the abuse if I ever have a soft moment. But I no longer miss her like so once did. I know who and what she is now.</p><p></p><p>She hates when I journal here. I hope she doesn't read it. This was not written for her. But if she does read it, it was her decision. Too bad.</p><p></p><p>I think you are all great. Can't wait to meet you.</p><p></p><p>Time to get ready for work!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 725122, member: 1550"] Thank you, RN. I loved your point. I should have been done maybe not the first time but when she called the cops on me for stupid stuff like phone calls or emails. She knew I had little ones at home but I believe her need to control me through the cops, and I do believe she did it strictly for control, did not give her time to think that maybe the babies would be afraid of the cops. Nor did she care. The cops were nothing to her but a "ha ha" way to control me. That is who she is. I hate to admit it, but that os her. And she thinks she is an empath!!! I disagree! The harder part of all of this circus stuff was/is that rather than her being just a friend, it was and is my sister. My sister who I once adored more than anyone but my kids, even loved her more than my first husband. I wanted her to love me so much that it about killed me the first time she cut me off. I even dissed my sweet brother, whom she disliked, to be in her favor. Shame on me! SHAME! He is the best person ever! I blame myself and kick myself 1000% for that! What a stupid choice I made! Many years have passed. I never really.knew Sister's real self or why she cut me off so much and called the cops even after I moved out of state. There is no way she can claim that I was a threat to hurt her living so far away, not that I ever did even living close by. My husband is a good guy and kind to her face, but in private he loathes her for calling the cops for nothing and scaring our tiny kids by forcing the police to come over. He called her names and still does that I can't print here. But he would be only a gentleman to her face so she thinks he is okay with her. Ha! He thinks she is very sick. My kids all don't like her, but Princess will be cordial to people too to their faces. And she was. Sonic would too. Jumper would basically snub her. Sonic and Jumper were there for the cop visits that were for nothing. My sister is mean to me like my mother was and thinks mean things about me that are not true, like my mother thought. They are a lot alike. I never totally forgave the cop thing. And at this stage of my life, a good one, the only way I would consider her coming back again would be for her to explain and verbalize remorse for her wrongdoings. I already have apologized to her many times. She doesnt think she did anything wrong. Jeez. Delusions much? As it stands....what normal sister calls the cops on a sister for an email??? Or who lives in another state over a phone call? Nobody. It's not normal. My sister, whom I once felt was the strong one in our unstable family, is unable to detach from a Narcicistic man, is stringing along another very nice man while she still talks to and has feelings for the other one (this is so mean to Nice Man, but she always puts herself first) , has eating issues and thinks I am dangerous. Delusional much? She is the one at this point who needs help and I so can't fix her. She doesn't even know she needs the kind of help she needs. She will never acknowledge it. She tried to normalize her inability to break ties with a monster, the narcicist. She is obsessed with him. And she wont tell nice man her truth. I dont think she has romantic feelings for nice man. She will hurt him. She already broke up with nice man once for narcicist. Now she is lying to nice man, making him think he is only one. Hell, she is afraid to tell narcicist there is another man and that she is through with him! Because she doesn't want to lose narcicist, her real love. This nice man talks aboutarrying her, not aware that she loves and talks to narcicist. The nice man will get screwed, like many on her realm. Or she will marry him...he has money...and still talk to narcicist. Morals are not there. This is wrong, no? I am out of there. The past, the present, her thinking about me and just her treatment of nice man...there is no relationship for her and me to build up. We never had one. You don't call the cops on your sister ten or more times for her petty reasons unless you are sick. And you certainly don't deserve to be in my life if you think poorly of me. I like and know myself. I can stay with one kind man for 24 years. Since our marriage, there has only been him. He is the love of my lift. So glad I can love a nice man and that he loves me. HEY, SIS, YOU DON'T DESERVE ME IN YOUR LIFE! Thank you all so much. I needed to get that out. You all helped so much just by hearing me out. Now I can go on with life and read this thread of all the abuse if I ever have a soft moment. But I no longer miss her like so once did. I know who and what she is now. She hates when I journal here. I hope she doesn't read it. This was not written for her. But if she does read it, it was her decision. Too bad. I think you are all great. Can't wait to meet you. Time to get ready for work!!! :) [/QUOTE]
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