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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 726182" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Thank you EVERYONE for your support and replies. I'm truly grateful. Been a member of this community over 13 years. I don't like that I still need it on occasion, but so darn glad it's here! </p><p></p><p>The status of Son and I is distant and not speaking for the most part. I'm a tough old bird (I can't believe I just referred to myself by the same term we used to call my Grandma, but it fits.), but I do feel wounded by his words and actions. I'm not returning to our "normal" until he apologies for his words and behavior towards me. He did apologize to my brother the next day regarding his language. According to him, my brother said it was no big deal. Not sure if that's true, and I would have preferred my brother hold him more accountable, but I don't have the control there. I don't see him often and I don't think he realizes what a jerk Son is towards me at times. </p><p></p><p>So, he approached me yesterday when he got home from work and started a random conversation. I informed him I until he made things right with me, I really have no interest in small talk or friendly conversation. He acted like he didn't know what I was talking about. I offered to remind him, he got huffy and warbled on about "Not living in the past" and walked out of the room. </p><p>I left early for work this morning before he got up. So, I haven't seen him since. </p><p></p><p>The day of his comment, when we got home, he went on about "Being on my own a long time." We were shocked. husband quipped, "It would be hilarious, if it wasn't so damn insulting." He has a decent job, and has kept it over a year. A job that I saw advertised and forwarded him the flyer. Then, his grandmother shuttling him back and forth for interviews and background checks. </p><p></p><p>husband and I had a sit-down. I'm tired of being the enforcer and overall "bad guy" while he stays on the sidelines. Not that he hasn't had doses of Son's words and behavior. However, in my presence, I'm not having it. No one talks to MY husband that way and doesn't get a response from me. husband then says, "He needs to leave." "Ok" I say, but YOU'RE going to do it. You can put him out." "I'm also tired of you making nice with him, going to dinner, having a beer, when he's a Grade AAA jerk to me. I'm your wife. You have my back. Stand up for YOUR WIFE." So, we'll see. I know I was loud and clear. husband is out of town working for a few weeks. I'm, frankly, just not ready to put him out. Should I? Yeah, probably. I'm not there. Why? Because of my weak mommy heart. I know it and won't deny it. Could that change in the future? Sure. </p><p></p><p>Again, thank you for your support!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 726182, member: 831"] Thank you EVERYONE for your support and replies. I'm truly grateful. Been a member of this community over 13 years. I don't like that I still need it on occasion, but so darn glad it's here! The status of Son and I is distant and not speaking for the most part. I'm a tough old bird (I can't believe I just referred to myself by the same term we used to call my Grandma, but it fits.), but I do feel wounded by his words and actions. I'm not returning to our "normal" until he apologies for his words and behavior towards me. He did apologize to my brother the next day regarding his language. According to him, my brother said it was no big deal. Not sure if that's true, and I would have preferred my brother hold him more accountable, but I don't have the control there. I don't see him often and I don't think he realizes what a jerk Son is towards me at times. So, he approached me yesterday when he got home from work and started a random conversation. I informed him I until he made things right with me, I really have no interest in small talk or friendly conversation. He acted like he didn't know what I was talking about. I offered to remind him, he got huffy and warbled on about "Not living in the past" and walked out of the room. I left early for work this morning before he got up. So, I haven't seen him since. The day of his comment, when we got home, he went on about "Being on my own a long time." We were shocked. husband quipped, "It would be hilarious, if it wasn't so damn insulting." He has a decent job, and has kept it over a year. A job that I saw advertised and forwarded him the flyer. Then, his grandmother shuttling him back and forth for interviews and background checks. husband and I had a sit-down. I'm tired of being the enforcer and overall "bad guy" while he stays on the sidelines. Not that he hasn't had doses of Son's words and behavior. However, in my presence, I'm not having it. No one talks to MY husband that way and doesn't get a response from me. husband then says, "He needs to leave." "Ok" I say, but YOU'RE going to do it. You can put him out." "I'm also tired of you making nice with him, going to dinner, having a beer, when he's a Grade AAA jerk to me. I'm your wife. You have my back. Stand up for YOUR WIFE." So, we'll see. I know I was loud and clear. husband is out of town working for a few weeks. I'm, frankly, just not ready to put him out. Should I? Yeah, probably. I'm not there. Why? Because of my weak mommy heart. I know it and won't deny it. Could that change in the future? Sure. Again, thank you for your support! [/QUOTE]
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