raylea
New Member
Hello everyone.
Its been a while since I posted so to bring you up to speed..
My son, homeless (again) lives in Seattle, we live in Ks. I live about 4 hours away from my hometown where all my family is. About a month ago his best friend through childhood and teen years comitted suicide. I posted about the fears I had about telling my son. As expected he was devestated but started seeing his counselor after that which was a good thing.
His friends memorial is next saturday, in Kansas. My son had told me he was sad about not being able to come back for the service but what could he do. He understands I financially cannot help him with anything. Well, a few days ago he texts me and tells me his dad (my ex) had paid for a bus ticket for him to come back for the service. I am ashamed to say my heart sank. My fears are that once he comes back he wont leave again. He ended up in Seattle because everyone had cut him off. He wouldnt keep a job and everyone got tired of supporting him.he thought we were all a bunch of idiots and f**k everyone. So jumped in his car and took off. He always wanted to live in Seattle so away he went. That was a year and a half ago. Needless to say, he didnt keep his job in Wa, and ended up homeless.
Now hes coming back and Im so anxiety ridden about what will happen. My ex seems so happy that hes coming home but I dont think he even realizes what the consequences will probably be. And of course I dont want to be the one saying "are you flipping nuts???" Hes coming right back to the same situations that caused him to leave in the first place.
On top of all that Im 4 hrs away, my boyfriend and I only have one vehicle presently so going home will be nearly impossible. My son has hinted about coming and staying with me, which isnt a good idea.
Just wanting some feedback on how to handle this. Im dreading what might lay ahead.
Its been a while since I posted so to bring you up to speed..
My son, homeless (again) lives in Seattle, we live in Ks. I live about 4 hours away from my hometown where all my family is. About a month ago his best friend through childhood and teen years comitted suicide. I posted about the fears I had about telling my son. As expected he was devestated but started seeing his counselor after that which was a good thing.
His friends memorial is next saturday, in Kansas. My son had told me he was sad about not being able to come back for the service but what could he do. He understands I financially cannot help him with anything. Well, a few days ago he texts me and tells me his dad (my ex) had paid for a bus ticket for him to come back for the service. I am ashamed to say my heart sank. My fears are that once he comes back he wont leave again. He ended up in Seattle because everyone had cut him off. He wouldnt keep a job and everyone got tired of supporting him.he thought we were all a bunch of idiots and f**k everyone. So jumped in his car and took off. He always wanted to live in Seattle so away he went. That was a year and a half ago. Needless to say, he didnt keep his job in Wa, and ended up homeless.
Now hes coming back and Im so anxiety ridden about what will happen. My ex seems so happy that hes coming home but I dont think he even realizes what the consequences will probably be. And of course I dont want to be the one saying "are you flipping nuts???" Hes coming right back to the same situations that caused him to leave in the first place.
On top of all that Im 4 hrs away, my boyfriend and I only have one vehicle presently so going home will be nearly impossible. My son has hinted about coming and staying with me, which isnt a good idea.
Just wanting some feedback on how to handle this. Im dreading what might lay ahead.