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Ex trying to force He-Who-Left-Family and Daughter to have Christmas together
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 641543" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>thanks, Cedar.</p><p></p><p>Ex has backed off of his wish to have Christmas at his house with both of them. I wonder why...hehe. Anyhow, Julie decided that Christmas Day was just going to be her, her SO and the baby and nobody else. So she is going to see ex on Christmas Eve, which will be just about when myself and us Wisconsonites are leaving to go back home. He is being obstinate about having Christmas Eve at his house. So finally Julie said, "That's fine, but Kaili can't sleep there so all we'll be able to do is come over, eat, and rush right home." He said that was all right with him.</p><p></p><p>He just doesn't want to drive to her house, although it is only twenty minutes away and the baby really IS better off in her own environment, but whatever. At least he isn't bugging her to see Scott anymore.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad we decided to take a different approach to holidays and celebrate them a week or so before/after the actual day. It makes it a lot less stressful for everyone. That way my family doesn't have to sit down with ex, who can gall on one's nerves. One holiday he kept bugging my husband, who is a car mechanic, to please change the oil in his car. After he was worn down, my husband did it, but he told me later, "I don't want to go over there anymore. I mean, it's the holiday and he's asking everyone to do stuff for him."</p><p></p><p>It was a lot of gall for him to ask my husband to do that as they are not close.</p><p></p><p>It is calmer to celebrate a week earlier without his presence. I guess I'm just getting picky about my peace of mind and protecting my family from that as well. I've had enough excitement and dysfunctional people in my life. If I can avoid it, I do. And ex is an extension of my dysfunctional family of origin. He is so much like my father that I'm sure I married him because he seemed so familiar. My father LOVED LOVED LOVED him. They were and are two peas in a pod, although I do think my ex treats his kids a lot nicer than my Dad treated us. Still, many similarities.</p><p></p><p>Take care <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 641543, member: 1550"] thanks, Cedar. Ex has backed off of his wish to have Christmas at his house with both of them. I wonder why...hehe. Anyhow, Julie decided that Christmas Day was just going to be her, her SO and the baby and nobody else. So she is going to see ex on Christmas Eve, which will be just about when myself and us Wisconsonites are leaving to go back home. He is being obstinate about having Christmas Eve at his house. So finally Julie said, "That's fine, but Kaili can't sleep there so all we'll be able to do is come over, eat, and rush right home." He said that was all right with him. He just doesn't want to drive to her house, although it is only twenty minutes away and the baby really IS better off in her own environment, but whatever. At least he isn't bugging her to see Scott anymore. I'm glad we decided to take a different approach to holidays and celebrate them a week or so before/after the actual day. It makes it a lot less stressful for everyone. That way my family doesn't have to sit down with ex, who can gall on one's nerves. One holiday he kept bugging my husband, who is a car mechanic, to please change the oil in his car. After he was worn down, my husband did it, but he told me later, "I don't want to go over there anymore. I mean, it's the holiday and he's asking everyone to do stuff for him." It was a lot of gall for him to ask my husband to do that as they are not close. It is calmer to celebrate a week earlier without his presence. I guess I'm just getting picky about my peace of mind and protecting my family from that as well. I've had enough excitement and dysfunctional people in my life. If I can avoid it, I do. And ex is an extension of my dysfunctional family of origin. He is so much like my father that I'm sure I married him because he seemed so familiar. My father LOVED LOVED LOVED him. They were and are two peas in a pod, although I do think my ex treats his kids a lot nicer than my Dad treated us. Still, many similarities. Take care :) [/QUOTE]
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