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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 641561" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>We adopted a little boy from another country who lived in an orphanage. He was six when he came and honestly he never gave us any trouble when he was growing up, but he was obviously detached. He was brilliant (over-the-top IQ) and started building computers at age twelve. He decided not to go to college and to start out before everyone else and he did and now he is a millionaire with his own company, a wife, two kids, a pool in his back yard...the problem is, once he met his wife, a few arguments occurred, but nothing major. Still, he dumped his entire family and we haven't seen him in eight years. Growing up he had been very close to his sister, whom he dumped when wife came into the picture and at first it broke her heart, as it did all of us, but especially her. He also got very religious...too religious, in my opinion...and told Julie's current SO that they didn't have a relationship...they were just "screwing." I truly believe Scott was a virgin when he got maried and so was his wife. They never lived together and he was very vocal about how sinful it was to have out-of-marriage sex. He also thinks divorce is a sin. So he told Julie and Geoff that their sinful relationship wouldn't last. Haha...it lasted. Anyhow, it's been so long and he's changed so much and is so religious and materialistic I am fine with his being out of my life now. The little boy he used to be hurts, but he is nothing like that little boy now. He is very stuck up and self-righteous and wants nothing to do with us. So be it. He looks down at anyone who is not rich.</p><p></p><p>Ex can't accept that his son and his daughter don't want to know each other anymore. It would be much easier for him if they got along. But Scott really went from doing EVERYTHING with Julie to dropping her like old trash and his yelling at her SO made SO hate him. Julie did see him once at her father's nagging and neither of them had anything to say to each other. Scott didn't bring his wife. That's significant as they are joined at the hip. She probably refused to go and he would never make her.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, none of ex's kids get along. 37 is his other kid. He wouldn't even dare ask 37 to see Scott because 37 would give him an earful that for once would be deserved. Maybe ex wants Scott and Julie to see each other now that they both have kids, but Julie flat out told me she did not want her daughter around him. One thing he did do when they were at that forced outing together is brag to her about his money and the expensive, elite pre-school his son is going to, and Julie has no tolerance for that. She isn't jealous of it. That's just something that she can't stomach...bragging and materialism. She told me, "We have NOTHING in common anymore." Also, she slipped up and said "Oh God" and Scott got very stern with her as his son was there and they NEVER say "Oh God" or anything like that in his ultra-religious house.</p><p></p><p>Scott came at age six. That's really usually too old for a child to bond to a family in the right way. Scott didn't see ex for three years then he started to see him again, probably because he is loaded. Scott doesn't want to be left out of that will and his father, my ex, is sickly. My ex is also a Christian so they go to church together, although my ex is nothing near the kind of Christian my son is. My son keeps trying to get him to go to stricter churches with him and sometimes ex will go. Scott knows the rest of us would not be cool with that at all. Plus it gets old hearing that the woman has to listen to the man in a marriage...blah, blah, blah. Julie told me she doesn't need that sort of talk. I don't blame her.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, Julie was very distraught when ex started badgering her to have Christmas with Scott and, not only that, but cook for him and his. She is a chef. Ex thought it was a GREAT idea. Julie didn't.</p><p></p><p>So she called me up crying and asked me to please talk to him, as I know how to deal with ex better than anyone. I was happy to do the dirty work this time. There is a lot more, including one meeting me and Scott had at church that was supposed to attempt reconciliation. He was so vile there that I walked out of there afterward, not even near tears (I already hadn't seen him for five years). All I could do was shake my head and wonder who this man was...he wasn't the son I raised. I wasn't even upset. My thoughts were "I don't care if I ever see him again." And clearly that is what he really wanted to accomplish. He didn't want a reconciliation or he would never have said the things he did. </p><p> </p><p>Even 37 has never been as vile as Scott was that night. Of course his wife whimpered the whole time and, in general, I understand why Julie doesn't want to see him.</p><p></p><p>Ex keeps trying to keep a hold on what his kids do and he does expect a lot out of them. He's a lot like my dad, sadly. At any rate, that's the short version of the story so you can imagine the long one...lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 641561, member: 1550"] We adopted a little boy from another country who lived in an orphanage. He was six when he came and honestly he never gave us any trouble when he was growing up, but he was obviously detached. He was brilliant (over-the-top IQ) and started building computers at age twelve. He decided not to go to college and to start out before everyone else and he did and now he is a millionaire with his own company, a wife, two kids, a pool in his back yard...the problem is, once he met his wife, a few arguments occurred, but nothing major. Still, he dumped his entire family and we haven't seen him in eight years. Growing up he had been very close to his sister, whom he dumped when wife came into the picture and at first it broke her heart, as it did all of us, but especially her. He also got very religious...too religious, in my opinion...and told Julie's current SO that they didn't have a relationship...they were just "screwing." I truly believe Scott was a virgin when he got maried and so was his wife. They never lived together and he was very vocal about how sinful it was to have out-of-marriage sex. He also thinks divorce is a sin. So he told Julie and Geoff that their sinful relationship wouldn't last. Haha...it lasted. Anyhow, it's been so long and he's changed so much and is so religious and materialistic I am fine with his being out of my life now. The little boy he used to be hurts, but he is nothing like that little boy now. He is very stuck up and self-righteous and wants nothing to do with us. So be it. He looks down at anyone who is not rich. Ex can't accept that his son and his daughter don't want to know each other anymore. It would be much easier for him if they got along. But Scott really went from doing EVERYTHING with Julie to dropping her like old trash and his yelling at her SO made SO hate him. Julie did see him once at her father's nagging and neither of them had anything to say to each other. Scott didn't bring his wife. That's significant as they are joined at the hip. She probably refused to go and he would never make her. Anyhow, none of ex's kids get along. 37 is his other kid. He wouldn't even dare ask 37 to see Scott because 37 would give him an earful that for once would be deserved. Maybe ex wants Scott and Julie to see each other now that they both have kids, but Julie flat out told me she did not want her daughter around him. One thing he did do when they were at that forced outing together is brag to her about his money and the expensive, elite pre-school his son is going to, and Julie has no tolerance for that. She isn't jealous of it. That's just something that she can't stomach...bragging and materialism. She told me, "We have NOTHING in common anymore." Also, she slipped up and said "Oh God" and Scott got very stern with her as his son was there and they NEVER say "Oh God" or anything like that in his ultra-religious house. Scott came at age six. That's really usually too old for a child to bond to a family in the right way. Scott didn't see ex for three years then he started to see him again, probably because he is loaded. Scott doesn't want to be left out of that will and his father, my ex, is sickly. My ex is also a Christian so they go to church together, although my ex is nothing near the kind of Christian my son is. My son keeps trying to get him to go to stricter churches with him and sometimes ex will go. Scott knows the rest of us would not be cool with that at all. Plus it gets old hearing that the woman has to listen to the man in a marriage...blah, blah, blah. Julie told me she doesn't need that sort of talk. I don't blame her. Anyway, Julie was very distraught when ex started badgering her to have Christmas with Scott and, not only that, but cook for him and his. She is a chef. Ex thought it was a GREAT idea. Julie didn't. So she called me up crying and asked me to please talk to him, as I know how to deal with ex better than anyone. I was happy to do the dirty work this time. There is a lot more, including one meeting me and Scott had at church that was supposed to attempt reconciliation. He was so vile there that I walked out of there afterward, not even near tears (I already hadn't seen him for five years). All I could do was shake my head and wonder who this man was...he wasn't the son I raised. I wasn't even upset. My thoughts were "I don't care if I ever see him again." And clearly that is what he really wanted to accomplish. He didn't want a reconciliation or he would never have said the things he did. Even 37 has never been as vile as Scott was that night. Of course his wife whimpered the whole time and, in general, I understand why Julie doesn't want to see him. Ex keeps trying to keep a hold on what his kids do and he does expect a lot out of them. He's a lot like my dad, sadly. At any rate, that's the short version of the story so you can imagine the long one...lol. [/QUOTE]
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