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<blockquote data-quote="Bennieb" data-source="post: 634852" data-attributes="member: 14380"><p>How do I do this? How do any of us do this? This thing, which sounds so very harsh and cold and unfeeling. We do it finally because we can't give any more. We are spent. We are tapped out. We are sick and tired.</p><p></p><p>Child of mine, that's exactly it, I am completely sick of this game, yet, I am struggling so much with detaching myself from my son.</p><p>Friday night I met him & gave him $40 & told him that he needed to get in touch with some kind of social agency to help him to get housing or food, or whatever it is that he needs to get set up for himself. I told him that this was the last time that I would be helping him because I have to start taking care of myself better.</p><p>Well, surprise, surprise, he text me about half hour ago asking if he can come use my internet, because he needs it for work tomorrow.</p><p>I haven't responded, but I know that my not responding means that he will probably spend the rest of the night texting & calling.</p><p>I'm trying so hard to hold my bottom line, but I am really struggling. I feel like I need help to learn how to let go & not feel guilty about it, because I know that I have nothing to feel guilty for, but I just can't get past the fact that he is my child. My brain knows that this is insane, but my heart keeps reminding me of the sweet boy that he once was. </p><p>How do you all cope with that struggle?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bennieb, post: 634852, member: 14380"] How do I do this? How do any of us do this? This thing, which sounds so very harsh and cold and unfeeling. We do it finally because we can't give any more. We are spent. We are tapped out. We are sick and tired. Child of mine, that's exactly it, I am completely sick of this game, yet, I am struggling so much with detaching myself from my son. Friday night I met him & gave him $40 & told him that he needed to get in touch with some kind of social agency to help him to get housing or food, or whatever it is that he needs to get set up for himself. I told him that this was the last time that I would be helping him because I have to start taking care of myself better. Well, surprise, surprise, he text me about half hour ago asking if he can come use my internet, because he needs it for work tomorrow. I haven't responded, but I know that my not responding means that he will probably spend the rest of the night texting & calling. I'm trying so hard to hold my bottom line, but I am really struggling. I feel like I need help to learn how to let go & not feel guilty about it, because I know that I have nothing to feel guilty for, but I just can't get past the fact that he is my child. My brain knows that this is insane, but my heart keeps reminding me of the sweet boy that he once was. How do you all cope with that struggle? [/QUOTE]
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