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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 42634" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>You guys seem to have more services in place to facilitate communication between parent and school. We've had to get by down here.</p><p></p><p>So consider my views a worst case scenario.</p><p></p><p>Rules to live by:</p><p></p><p>1) School stuff is not home stuff. DO NOT TAKE ON SCHOOL'S GARBAGE. This means no nagging over homework, not following through with punishment meted out by the school. You can support the school as far as explaining to difficult child that he has to try to obey school rules during school time, and home rules during home time, and that your task as parent is to support him in trying to meet these requirements.</p><p></p><p>2) Get the IEP changed to include CPS (basically, "Explosive Child" methods). Explain to the school that it is in their interests to make the changes because existing discipline methods have clearly been failing; the CPS methods work very well for other kids in the class even if they are PCs; YOU are not going to stop nagging about it until they comply.</p><p></p><p>Also explain to the school that since they are going down such a very different management path to you, that you cannot follow through at home and to not expect you to. If they won't support YOUR methods, they are on their own. And check the law, but I think failure to make the changes you request, without giving good reasons to you which you accept, is discriminatory. A case could probably be made, anyway.</p><p></p><p>You can't apply normal rules to an abnormal situation. When a planeload of athletes crashes in the Andes and they have to eat the bodies to survive, this is forgiven because the situation was extreme. When Sweeney Todd kidnaps, kills and eats his victims, this is murder and is dealt with by the full extent of the law. What I'm saying - you have to be prepared to adapt to the situation in order to survive.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 42634, member: 1991"] You guys seem to have more services in place to facilitate communication between parent and school. We've had to get by down here. So consider my views a worst case scenario. Rules to live by: 1) School stuff is not home stuff. DO NOT TAKE ON SCHOOL'S GARBAGE. This means no nagging over homework, not following through with punishment meted out by the school. You can support the school as far as explaining to difficult child that he has to try to obey school rules during school time, and home rules during home time, and that your task as parent is to support him in trying to meet these requirements. 2) Get the IEP changed to include CPS (basically, "Explosive Child" methods). Explain to the school that it is in their interests to make the changes because existing discipline methods have clearly been failing; the CPS methods work very well for other kids in the class even if they are PCs; YOU are not going to stop nagging about it until they comply. Also explain to the school that since they are going down such a very different management path to you, that you cannot follow through at home and to not expect you to. If they won't support YOUR methods, they are on their own. And check the law, but I think failure to make the changes you request, without giving good reasons to you which you accept, is discriminatory. A case could probably be made, anyway. You can't apply normal rules to an abnormal situation. When a planeload of athletes crashes in the Andes and they have to eat the bodies to survive, this is forgiven because the situation was extreme. When Sweeney Todd kidnaps, kills and eats his victims, this is murder and is dealt with by the full extent of the law. What I'm saying - you have to be prepared to adapt to the situation in order to survive. Marg [/QUOTE]
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