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Extreme aggressiveness, what happened in your case?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 654856" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi again, Ethansmom</p><p></p><p>Keep in mind that I only had the one child, so our situations are different.</p><p>And keep in mind that I like you am new to the board.</p><p></p><p>That said, this is what I think:</p><p></p><p>You are taking a stand against violence in your home FOR YOUR SON as well as the other children, and yourself. You do that because HE MATTERS, HE IS WORTH IT. What is painful and difficult is often the most healing, because it is what we have to, must do, in order to take a stand for our children. Because it was just me, I waited to long to confront his moods, to curb his disrespect of me and his outbursts. I was willing to sacrifice myself. This was the wrong choice for my son.</p><p></p><p>To insist that your son learn to control his anger and his behavior...is the right thing for him and to remove him from a situation where he dangerously loses control is the right thing for him. I believe that if you look at the situation in this way, and explain it to him, he will understand. Maybe not now, but later.</p><p></p><p>I did not take this kind of stand for my son. I let myself be his victim, not by violent acts, but in so many other ways. I did this, I thought, because I love him. II did not get support from his therapist to take a stand. Rather, I was encouraged to keep trying, to let him mature. I see now that sacrificing anybody is not an act of love. My son, so long lived in a world where his bad behavior carried the day...now that I am setting limits. I fear he NOW wonders if I no longer love him.</p><p></p><p>I cannot say what is the right thing to do in your circumstances. I waver in my own. Your great love for your son shines through in each of your posts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 654856, member: 18958"] Hi again, Ethansmom Keep in mind that I only had the one child, so our situations are different. And keep in mind that I like you am new to the board. That said, this is what I think: You are taking a stand against violence in your home FOR YOUR SON as well as the other children, and yourself. You do that because HE MATTERS, HE IS WORTH IT. What is painful and difficult is often the most healing, because it is what we have to, must do, in order to take a stand for our children. Because it was just me, I waited to long to confront his moods, to curb his disrespect of me and his outbursts. I was willing to sacrifice myself. This was the wrong choice for my son. To insist that your son learn to control his anger and his behavior...is the right thing for him and to remove him from a situation where he dangerously loses control is the right thing for him. I believe that if you look at the situation in this way, and explain it to him, he will understand. Maybe not now, but later. I did not take this kind of stand for my son. I let myself be his victim, not by violent acts, but in so many other ways. I did this, I thought, because I love him. II did not get support from his therapist to take a stand. Rather, I was encouraged to keep trying, to let him mature. I see now that sacrificing anybody is not an act of love. My son, so long lived in a world where his bad behavior carried the day...now that I am setting limits. I fear he NOW wonders if I no longer love him. I cannot say what is the right thing to do in your circumstances. I waver in my own. Your great love for your son shines through in each of your posts. [/QUOTE]
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