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Extreme aggressiveness, what happened in your case?
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 654872" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>My kid was extremely violent - knives, biting, hitting, kicking, throwing lamps, chairs, books, etc. ad nauseum. He had no problem going after anyone - police, teachers, parents, siblings (though he did show a bit of restraint with sibs, comparatively speaking), peers, staff, etc.</p><p></p><p>I disarmed him of knives a couple times, then locked every sharp we owned in a keyed lock box. In hindsight, it was really *really* stupid of me to disarm him but I remember at the time I had a very clear thought that if I showed fear and didn't meet him toe-to-toe, all would be lost. Our kids can be ridiculously strong when raging and we were extremely lucky that no one every got seriously injured. </p><p></p><p>I think the most important thing to remember and repeat is that you (or ex) and your children have the right to be safe in your own home. So very important. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE SAFE IN YOUR OWN HOME. Once violence erupts, I don't care about diagnosis or cause or any of that - it's not the time to address it. Safety has to be the primary concern.</p><p></p><p>Violence in my home resulted in a call to 911. Every time. He had an extensive psychiatric history so 99% of the time he would end up being admitted for another medication tweak. It was a revolving door but... it's what we had to do. </p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion every act of violence that is not answered with a call for help will only reinforce the idea that he can do what he wants with zero consequences. Not saying that calling for help will necessarily result in a change in the behavior anytime in the near future, and that's why it's so important to remember that YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE SAFE IN YOUR OWN HOME. The problem may not get solved, but you will be safe for the time being.</p><p></p><p>My son got his act together, eventually. I can't point to a specific therapy or medication - I think it was more a matter of growing up and realizing that his complete disinterest in controlling his impulses was going to get him in a lot of trouble, one way or another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 654872, member: 8"] My kid was extremely violent - knives, biting, hitting, kicking, throwing lamps, chairs, books, etc. ad nauseum. He had no problem going after anyone - police, teachers, parents, siblings (though he did show a bit of restraint with sibs, comparatively speaking), peers, staff, etc. I disarmed him of knives a couple times, then locked every sharp we owned in a keyed lock box. In hindsight, it was really *really* stupid of me to disarm him but I remember at the time I had a very clear thought that if I showed fear and didn't meet him toe-to-toe, all would be lost. Our kids can be ridiculously strong when raging and we were extremely lucky that no one every got seriously injured. I think the most important thing to remember and repeat is that you (or ex) and your children have the right to be safe in your own home. So very important. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE SAFE IN YOUR OWN HOME. Once violence erupts, I don't care about diagnosis or cause or any of that - it's not the time to address it. Safety has to be the primary concern. Violence in my home resulted in a call to 911. Every time. He had an extensive psychiatric history so 99% of the time he would end up being admitted for another medication tweak. It was a revolving door but... it's what we had to do. in my humble opinion every act of violence that is not answered with a call for help will only reinforce the idea that he can do what he wants with zero consequences. Not saying that calling for help will necessarily result in a change in the behavior anytime in the near future, and that's why it's so important to remember that YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE SAFE IN YOUR OWN HOME. The problem may not get solved, but you will be safe for the time being. My son got his act together, eventually. I can't point to a specific therapy or medication - I think it was more a matter of growing up and realizing that his complete disinterest in controlling his impulses was going to get him in a lot of trouble, one way or another. [/QUOTE]
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