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<blockquote data-quote="Miracle" data-source="post: 760027" data-attributes="member: 26597"><p>Thanks, Busy. Your advice is helpful, and I think you're right. I need to focus on my own well being and that of my other kids. It is hard to take the focus of off him with him living here, but that's what I need to do. I will consider NarAnon.</p><p></p><p>My son can't bike to work, but thankfully there are only 2 weeks left until he gets his license. We are trying to do as little as possible for him. We did not work things out with his old roommates, pay for his broken lease, pay overdo bills, pay for phone service (he currently has no phone), fix his negative bank account, buy cigarettes, or give him money. The money we would have spent on college was used for private mental health/rehab, and we told him we won't do that again. I'm not doing his laundry. We're letting him live here rent free and eat with the family, and once he gets his license we'll let him use the family car to go back and forth to work and therapy. We don't want to be hard on him. Just want to encourage him to grow up!</p><p></p><p>I have been trying to help him figure out his future, and I could probably direct that energy elsewhere. He doesn't want our advice anyway. He can easily rebound from this - just needs to make better choices. But I can't do it for him...</p><p></p><p>I really appreciate your advice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Miracle, post: 760027, member: 26597"] Thanks, Busy. Your advice is helpful, and I think you're right. I need to focus on my own well being and that of my other kids. It is hard to take the focus of off him with him living here, but that's what I need to do. I will consider NarAnon. My son can't bike to work, but thankfully there are only 2 weeks left until he gets his license. We are trying to do as little as possible for him. We did not work things out with his old roommates, pay for his broken lease, pay overdo bills, pay for phone service (he currently has no phone), fix his negative bank account, buy cigarettes, or give him money. The money we would have spent on college was used for private mental health/rehab, and we told him we won't do that again. I'm not doing his laundry. We're letting him live here rent free and eat with the family, and once he gets his license we'll let him use the family car to go back and forth to work and therapy. We don't want to be hard on him. Just want to encourage him to grow up! I have been trying to help him figure out his future, and I could probably direct that energy elsewhere. He doesn't want our advice anyway. He can easily rebound from this - just needs to make better choices. But I can't do it for him... I really appreciate your advice. [/QUOTE]
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