Eye opening (agitating) family therapy session....

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Jul 12, 2011.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    I attended my first family therapy session with ktbug today at Residential Treatment Center (RTC). As kt is slated to stay at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for only 3 months therapist wanted to discuss my concerns with kt present.

    I listed my top 3 issues & kt proceeded to become emotionally & verbally abusive toward me. therapist stopped kt in mid tirade as I just sat back & shook my head. He asked if this was the norm. Again kt started in; therapist asked kt to let me get a word in edgewise.

    I let him know that I have long ago quit attending therapy with kt for just this abusive attitude. kt pulled the little old orphan me act & I shrugged. With that kt threw the personal supplies I brought in for her against the wall. therapist immediately called in unit staff & asked that kt be escorted from his office. kt refused & insisted that she can continue the session & walk me out of the building at the end.

    A showdown ensued ~ kt didn't back down. kt became physically aggressive & was put into a hold. therapist walked me out of the bldg as she was raging. I let therapist know that I no longer had the physical, emotional or mental energy to deal with the day in, day out of kt & her continuing garbage.

    He let me know that he needed to push kt out of her comfort zone. kt was honeymooning far too long for the level of time approved for kt at this placement. therapist needed to see kt & her attitude toward me, her level of defiance & anger. therapist also promised me that any emotional or verbal abuse or aggression would be stopped immediately & kt would be escorted out of the office.

    I think he got a good picture.
  2. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    I think you are very right. I am proud of you for remaining detached through it all. Isn't it comforting when someone else sees the extent of the behavior for themselves? I think the therapist got it loud & clear. I hope you did something nice for yourself after you left. Lord knows you deserve it.

  3. round & round we go

    round & round we go New Member

    Sending hugs for you. Your session sounded alot like the ones I have had with my difficult child and her mental health councelor. Got to the point we had to have a guard with us during these sessions. She is just now being sent to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) from juvenile jail so I am sure there will be some meetings to come.....gonna start taking some geritol now to try and build up my strength.
  4. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Uh, mission accomplished!

    Good for this new team to see the reality you deal with. I hope you went home and had some fun with Lenny. They can be such a comfort our little fuzzies...

  5. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    I'm glad psychiatrist saw she was honeymooning and needed the push - then followed through. I hope she gets the help she really needs there for both of you. *hugs*
  6. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Sick as it sunds, I'm glad she showed her true colors (or at least part of them) at the first session. Now you don't have to wait during a long honeymoon period waiting for her to blow. Hugs. DDD
  7. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    I had requested that I not be involved in family sessions as I could do it in my sleep after all these years. therapist asked I come to push kt out of her comfort zone & to address all her "antics" as best we can during her stay.

    I'm not as invested in the tweedles so I really don't want to put myself out there emotionally. I agreed to family therapy with caveats that have been well noted.

    Thanks ladies....I hated seeing kt escalate like she did. I'll get over that; it may take longer for kt.
  8. lovelyboy

    lovelyboy Member

    This must have been very draining for you and sad to see her like this!

    Hope you can find some rest, support and quiet time for youself.

  9. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Whoah! I should say so!
    If the dr wants you to continue to go, he has to keep his word.
    I wouldn't go, either.
    I guess you can try it one more time ... I understand what he's saying, about pushing her out of her comfort zone, but maybe now that he's seen her in action, he can push her with-o you being present. He knows her triggers and tricks now. Know what I mean??
    Sheesh, my heart rate went up, just reading your note.
  10. jennd23

    jennd23 New Member

    Wow, I'm glad he got to see her in action, but sorry for you. I can imagine how difficult it must be.
  11. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Hopefully this is one of those cases where the end will justify the means. Your ability to remain detached during kt's tirade is evidence that you've taken all you can and refuse to take anymore-good for you! Big hugs, Linda.
  12. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    It amazes and saddens me how similar our journeys have been. I completely get the lack of your investment in family therapy (aka stopping beating your head into the same wall).
  13. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    JJJ, I too am amazed & saddened by our similar journeys. Looking forward to Chi town.