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Here we go again!
In an effort to help difficult child 1 work on his social skills, I did what most parents would probably never have to do. I created a Facebook account for him. I am hoping that this gets him to communicate with people more, and develope SOME level of relationship beyond what seems to exist superficially now.
Even though he's on a sports team with 25 other boys his age, he has yet to reach out to connect with any of them outside the school or sports setting. He spent the first half of this year with headphones in his ears between classes. I pointed out that he was never going to make friends that way -- you have to TALK to people to have a relationship with them, and he can't talk to people if he's not looking at them or listening to them. I think he heard me because he stopped taking his iPod to school after that.
So far, a bunch of the guys on his team have "friended" him, as have his cousins. Now I just need to remind him to log on to check it periodically.
His language arts teach recently filled out a teacher survey for his summer camp paperwork, and her comments that he is very shy and would prefer to work alone tells me that although this is his personality, he still needs some help. Lately he's confided to husband that he feels lonely and doesn't feel ike he has any friends. I don't want him to end up like some other family members who truly have no friends and lived their life feeling very lonely and isolated.
I told both him and difficult child 2 that I want them to phone a friend this week during break and arrange an outing. The park, fishing, a movie, bowling, whatever. Just SOMETHING with SOMEONE.
Even though he's on a sports team with 25 other boys his age, he has yet to reach out to connect with any of them outside the school or sports setting. He spent the first half of this year with headphones in his ears between classes. I pointed out that he was never going to make friends that way -- you have to TALK to people to have a relationship with them, and he can't talk to people if he's not looking at them or listening to them. I think he heard me because he stopped taking his iPod to school after that.
So far, a bunch of the guys on his team have "friended" him, as have his cousins. Now I just need to remind him to log on to check it periodically.
His language arts teach recently filled out a teacher survey for his summer camp paperwork, and her comments that he is very shy and would prefer to work alone tells me that although this is his personality, he still needs some help. Lately he's confided to husband that he feels lonely and doesn't feel ike he has any friends. I don't want him to end up like some other family members who truly have no friends and lived their life feeling very lonely and isolated.
I told both him and difficult child 2 that I want them to phone a friend this week during break and arrange an outing. The park, fishing, a movie, bowling, whatever. Just SOMETHING with SOMEONE.