Has anyone tried this? Gather family, friends, coaches and everyone who is invested in the difficult child and have an agenda to talk about a plan for change with him? Of course, he won't change unless he wants to and he may just give lip service to them all but I am trying to work through all our options before we bring out the boot camp or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) idea. I don't mean to use the meeting to criticize him and run through his stupid actions. That would be contrary to any effectiveness. I saw this type of meeting on tv with an addict and how they pleaded with him to realize his actions and get help. My son now is about to be kicked out of his school due to so many disciplinary actions. He's probaby going to fail 10th grade anyway since he just sits and makes jokes. How do these kids just keep on like nothing is wrong when there is so much chaos? My husband whose world revolves around this child has become so distraught that he now says, "The Pain of having him around me is now More than the joy of loving him." I detached three years ago because I couldn't stand living in despair.