My daughter called today for advise in regard to her mother in law. Since I have the best in laws EVER - I don't have any real life experience to share. Here's her struggle with her mother in law: Gently put - mother in law's house is just plain unkempt. I mean - dog waste on the rugs (yes solids). Whole bowls of cereal spilled into the furniture and never cleaned up. They have lived in their current house for over a year - and well - it has NEVER been vacuumed. One day daughter was visiting and there was a large butcher knife on the floor. Add dirty unwashed dishes - trash that spills all over the floor and I think you get the picture. My daughter just doesn't want to take their now crawling child to the house for more than an hour because they can manage to keep baby occupied in their laps for that short time. Much longer and the baby wants down to crawl/explore. mother in law gets offended that they don't come over much. And don't stay long when they do. She tries to meet up with the in laws at the mall or restaurants - but just doesn't know how to handle things like the holidays that require being in the house. I know I sound like a snob - but believe me my house hasn't made any magazine covers. I have a 100 pound house dog. She sheds. Most days I wouldn't eat off my kitchen floor. So, it's not like I have raised neat freaks. Poor daughter just says it's unsanitary and unsafe. I don't know how to advise her. I would appreciate other perspectives. And thanks in advance.