Question: What's the best way to handle difficult child under the following situaion? I'm currently undergoing testing for some potentially very serious health issues (difficult child not aware of this at all) and my Dad has cancer that has just spread to the brain. My Dad is expected to respond to treatment, but the outcomes still won't be great. My Dad has melanoma that spread to the lungs, kidney, and now brain - a really hard one to treat. Grandpa is the one that holds Mom together quite a bit (great listener and very non-judgemental!) and it's a bit tough at the moment. difficult child just sees Grandpa as being OK since he doesn't "look" terrible at the moment in a kid's eyes and he is just on me right and left; defiant, picking, typical stuff. I actually find myself avoiding him if at all possible much of the time. Otherwise, I will engage with him - and I try to avoid that at all costs most of the time. I have told difficult child I am simply busy with other things at the moment and don't have time or energy to deal with his attitude at the moment. Problem is, I've always seemed to be his barometer and he reads me better than anyone else; even when nobody else would pick-up on it, and I'm a bad actor. Any suggestions?