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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 9516" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I found that with my family, questions about health and addictions and behaviors were always answered with lies and deception. People weren't sick, they were lazy. People weren't addicted, they were crazy. People weren't gay, they were too irresponsible to get a husband/wife. People didn't have Alzheimer's, they were looking for attention. Children weren't disabled, they had bad parents. When diagnosis's <em>were</em> finally given, it was in whispers and only long after the information would have helped someone, and with the qualification that "it wasn't <em>that</em> bad" - unless someone died. Then they were the quietly suffering martyr. They suffered quietly because they couldn't share their concerns because the family judged them as failures for being sick. You might learn the true nature of their illness at their funeral. And I'm not talking about generations ago, either, I'm talking about my generation.</p><p></p><p>I think that if I were you, I would not do this behind husband's back. It's bound to get back to him and it seems like a betrayal to me if he isn't in contact with them. I would tell him what you need to know, and ask him who he thinks will give you accurate information, if anyone. If he is strongly opposed, I would let it be. There will always be time for this in the future.</p><p></p><p>As for genetic markers, I agree that they will be forthcoming. My gut feeling is that they will be used mostly to deny "preexisting conditions" from insurance coverage, or raise premiums based upon the severity of the disease associated with the marker.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 9516, member: 99"] I found that with my family, questions about health and addictions and behaviors were always answered with lies and deception. People weren't sick, they were lazy. People weren't addicted, they were crazy. People weren't gay, they were too irresponsible to get a husband/wife. People didn't have Alzheimer's, they were looking for attention. Children weren't disabled, they had bad parents. When diagnosis's [i]were[/i] finally given, it was in whispers and only long after the information would have helped someone, and with the qualification that "it wasn't [i]that[/i] bad" - unless someone died. Then they were the quietly suffering martyr. They suffered quietly because they couldn't share their concerns because the family judged them as failures for being sick. You might learn the true nature of their illness at their funeral. And I'm not talking about generations ago, either, I'm talking about my generation. I think that if I were you, I would not do this behind husband's back. It's bound to get back to him and it seems like a betrayal to me if he isn't in contact with them. I would tell him what you need to know, and ask him who he thinks will give you accurate information, if anyone. If he is strongly opposed, I would let it be. There will always be time for this in the future. As for genetic markers, I agree that they will be forthcoming. My gut feeling is that they will be used mostly to deny "preexisting conditions" from insurance coverage, or raise premiums based upon the severity of the disease associated with the marker. [/QUOTE]
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