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Family of Origin (FOO) Support Thread Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662659" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Cedar, as I reread this, I see that even with this relationship I did have with my mother, I could not avoid the FOO madness after her death.</p><p></p><p>Had I done this FOO-work before, would I have been spared? I do not think so.</p><p></p><p>The piper must be paid. These things that lie dormant within us must have their say. While it might have killed me, I am a better person and will have a fuller rest of my life (I hope) as a consequence.</p><p></p><p>Thinking about it, I do not think there is one thing YOU can do to change the course of events or should do. You did not cause it, you cannot control it or cure it.</p><p></p><p>Your mother determined every piece of this. You for most of your life reacted and now you are consciously responding based upon your conscious interpreting of a set of facts.</p><p></p><p>I suffer for you because I do not want you to suffer.But that still does not mean you should do something or not do something. The ball is in your mother's court.</p><p></p><p>Does she call you? Does she write you? Has she shown you in any way that she is ready to show you a new face, take a new direction? At least keep her fangs in her mouth or her knives in her purse? No.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662659, member: 18958"] Cedar, as I reread this, I see that even with this relationship I did have with my mother, I could not avoid the FOO madness after her death. Had I done this FOO-work before, would I have been spared? I do not think so. The piper must be paid. These things that lie dormant within us must have their say. While it might have killed me, I am a better person and will have a fuller rest of my life (I hope) as a consequence. Thinking about it, I do not think there is one thing YOU can do to change the course of events or should do. You did not cause it, you cannot control it or cure it. Your mother determined every piece of this. You for most of your life reacted and now you are consciously responding based upon your conscious interpreting of a set of facts. I suffer for you because I do not want you to suffer.But that still does not mean you should do something or not do something. The ball is in your mother's court. Does she call you? Does she write you? Has she shown you in any way that she is ready to show you a new face, take a new direction? At least keep her fangs in her mouth or her knives in her purse? No. [/QUOTE]
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