I and my sister both have difficult child's. difficult child 1 is more violent and sneaky. Hers is more defiant and sensory problems. He is also half difficult child 1's age. We're both worried about this family reunion coming up. Both our kids need very specific rules, but not the same rules. For example, difficult child 1 needs no touching, no rough housing. Hers thrives on rough housing and hard touch because of his sensory issues. These boys are like oil and water. The rest of the family says they are willing to help my sister. These are the same family members though that ridicule me for how I parent. Then there are the rest of my kids who have been traumatized by difficult child 1 and if his rules aren't followed they aren't going to feel safe. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. How have you had a family reunion with multiple difficult children from different families?