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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661344" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hearing about it and living with it are two different things. I'm sorry. He tried to act "bad." He scared his two elderly grandparents. He didn't like their praching because he's an atheist. Their house/their rules. You don't like it find an atheist to take you in. One is allowed to preach in his own home and Difficult Child knew it would happen. I think he was the abuser here.</p><p></p><p>Copa, I know you and I was set up by horrible mothers as scapegoats. But Jabber's family was loving and kind to him. This is not the norm for them. I do not think they scapegoated this young man. I think they are generally scared about their parents and it is not always easy to speak to your siblings, even in a normal family, about ad isturbed child.</p><p></p><p>The grandparents did not trick him. They wanted to help him.</p><p></p><p>This girlfriend mess is a disaster waiting to happen in my opinion. It won't change anything and will cause more drama. Sometimes I know that when things go wrong with our kids we like to divert ourselves and sometimes that means looking at others. In the big picture, this is just another mishap in this young man's walk. He knew exactly what he was doing and feels sorry for himself, but not sorry for anything he did. At least, until I hear more, that's how it seems.</p><p></p><p>I feel REALLY bad for Lil and Jabber who are not used to the crapola going on in the family. This is nothing like our lives, Copa. This is a loving family that had good intentions. The young man was not set up. If anything, he has been given many more chances than many difficult adult children ever get and is still pitying himself.</p><p></p><p>Difficult kids tend to burn every bridge they have...family, friends...then they are with nobody. I worked at a homeless shelter. Mainly, although it was hard to get stories out of the clients, what we did get out of them was pretty much that they had help but were thrown out agains and again. Hard to believe the world was against them...</p><p></p><p>Just saying. I don't see this as being anything like us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661344, member: 1550"] Hearing about it and living with it are two different things. I'm sorry. He tried to act "bad." He scared his two elderly grandparents. He didn't like their praching because he's an atheist. Their house/their rules. You don't like it find an atheist to take you in. One is allowed to preach in his own home and Difficult Child knew it would happen. I think he was the abuser here. Copa, I know you and I was set up by horrible mothers as scapegoats. But Jabber's family was loving and kind to him. This is not the norm for them. I do not think they scapegoated this young man. I think they are generally scared about their parents and it is not always easy to speak to your siblings, even in a normal family, about ad isturbed child. The grandparents did not trick him. They wanted to help him. This girlfriend mess is a disaster waiting to happen in my opinion. It won't change anything and will cause more drama. Sometimes I know that when things go wrong with our kids we like to divert ourselves and sometimes that means looking at others. In the big picture, this is just another mishap in this young man's walk. He knew exactly what he was doing and feels sorry for himself, but not sorry for anything he did. At least, until I hear more, that's how it seems. I feel REALLY bad for Lil and Jabber who are not used to the crapola going on in the family. This is nothing like our lives, Copa. This is a loving family that had good intentions. The young man was not set up. If anything, he has been given many more chances than many difficult adult children ever get and is still pitying himself. Difficult kids tend to burn every bridge they have...family, friends...then they are with nobody. I worked at a homeless shelter. Mainly, although it was hard to get stories out of the clients, what we did get out of them was pretty much that they had help but were thrown out agains and again. Hard to believe the world was against them... Just saying. I don't see this as being anything like us. [/QUOTE]
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