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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 661352" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Actually, youngest sis was asked to take him to girlfriend's town and then to the shelter. As it turns out, the shelter is not an option, but that day we didn't know that. She was very upset at the idea of a shelter finally he agreed to her parents. He actually wanted the shelter. We didn't think the grandparents were a good idea, but we were just kind of hoping for the best.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>See - that's exactly what I think and he does feel that way. Both Jabber and I having come from a large and loving family, this saddens us immensely.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And we are. But here's the thing, the same day he had his tantrum, which generally involves lots of screaming and shouting and such, Jabber spoke with his mother! I spoke with her the next day! She said it was better. He'd scared her with his outburst, but he'd calmed down and it was better. Her other son had been called and apparently read ours the riot act about his behaviour and told him he'd beat the hell out of him if he ever even considered putting a finger on his parents. Middle sister had been there that night and had our son come do her housework the next day. They had a great time. She'd posted nice things about him on Facebook. Did <em>anyone </em>at any time say anything about him being scary? Did they call us? Did they kick him out then? </p><p></p><p>NO. What they did was wait until the next weekend and then grab us as we're ready to leave the reunion to toss him out without warning. </p><p></p><p>Jabbers own mother did not know her grandson was not going to be allowed back into her house. What his father knew, I don't know.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is a pocket knife not a machete! I'm not going to say anything more about that.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Actually, he had a plan. Is it a great plan? No. But it's not like he's wandering aimlessly around. He hoped he could get a job for a few weeks then he and the girl could get a place. I admit he has a poor job-hunting ethic, but he was making an attempt.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is a good question and I'm actually not sure of the answer.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is exactly how I feel. It is <strong>absolutely his fault</strong> he got kicked out. It was HOW they did it I have a problem with! And even if they only just made up their mind on Friday - WHY did no one CALL us and give us a heads-up? </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes. </p><p></p><p>I'll say again, the ONLY person I fault for him getting kicked out is HIM! If he had an ounce of sense, he'd have just gone along with the grandparents, no matter how ridiculous their suggestions and demands. He should have never, EVER raised his voice to them, much less scream and freak out as he does at times. </p><p></p><p>But that being said, KICK HIM OUT THEN. Have a family meeting. Tell him they won't put up with a second of disrespect to their parents and he could be driven or walk, but out he goes! Heck, youngest sister and next to the oldest sister both have husbands literally 6'6" tall and built like linebackers. I assure you, he wouldn't try anything with them if the, (frankly large and intimidating sisters and) brother couldn't handle it. </p><p></p><p>Or maybe just CALL US! Jabber would have called in sick, driven up there, and that would have been it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 661352, member: 17309"] Actually, youngest sis was asked to take him to girlfriend's town and then to the shelter. As it turns out, the shelter is not an option, but that day we didn't know that. She was very upset at the idea of a shelter finally he agreed to her parents. He actually wanted the shelter. We didn't think the grandparents were a good idea, but we were just kind of hoping for the best. See - that's exactly what I think and he does feel that way. Both Jabber and I having come from a large and loving family, this saddens us immensely. And we are. But here's the thing, the same day he had his tantrum, which generally involves lots of screaming and shouting and such, Jabber spoke with his mother! I spoke with her the next day! She said it was better. He'd scared her with his outburst, but he'd calmed down and it was better. Her other son had been called and apparently read ours the riot act about his behaviour and told him he'd beat the hell out of him if he ever even considered putting a finger on his parents. Middle sister had been there that night and had our son come do her housework the next day. They had a great time. She'd posted nice things about him on Facebook. Did [I]anyone [/I]at any time say anything about him being scary? Did they call us? Did they kick him out then? NO. What they did was wait until the next weekend and then grab us as we're ready to leave the reunion to toss him out without warning. Jabbers own mother did not know her grandson was not going to be allowed back into her house. What his father knew, I don't know. It is a pocket knife not a machete! I'm not going to say anything more about that. Actually, he had a plan. Is it a great plan? No. But it's not like he's wandering aimlessly around. He hoped he could get a job for a few weeks then he and the girl could get a place. I admit he has a poor job-hunting ethic, but he was making an attempt. This is a good question and I'm actually not sure of the answer. This is exactly how I feel. It is [B]absolutely his fault[/B] he got kicked out. It was HOW they did it I have a problem with! And even if they only just made up their mind on Friday - WHY did no one CALL us and give us a heads-up? Yes. I'll say again, the ONLY person I fault for him getting kicked out is HIM! If he had an ounce of sense, he'd have just gone along with the grandparents, no matter how ridiculous their suggestions and demands. He should have never, EVER raised his voice to them, much less scream and freak out as he does at times. But that being said, KICK HIM OUT THEN. Have a family meeting. Tell him they won't put up with a second of disrespect to their parents and he could be driven or walk, but out he goes! Heck, youngest sister and next to the oldest sister both have husbands literally 6'6" tall and built like linebackers. I assure you, he wouldn't try anything with them if the, (frankly large and intimidating sisters and) brother couldn't handle it. Or maybe just CALL US! Jabber would have called in sick, driven up there, and that would have been it. [/QUOTE]
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