I noticed on difficult child's last report from Department of Juvenile Justice, which gets copied to PO and me, it said we'd need "Family Support" in addition to some other things typically indicated for kids coming from Department of Juvenile Justice, upon his release. That must explain why this PO is calling monthly asking when I saw difficult child last and how often I'm visiting. Well, then there's difficult child's behavioral counselor in Department of Juvenile Justice who can't get the phone to work that the kids are supposed to use to call parents and he's a bit flakey so he tells PO I have been contacting difficult child even when I have. Anyway, it's the tone of voice and mannerism along with the "I"m just calling to see if you've visited difficult child lately", along with seeing difficult child and I dwindling even further apart and difficult child becoming more and more comfortable in a Department of Juvenile Justice environment and less and less able to ever go back to acting like a minor with a parent living in a family home in the community that has me about to throw in the towel. The courts people (CSU- ie, PO) just don't get it. IMHHO, difficult child is lucky I visit him at all and I for darn sure am tired of standing in the cold over 1/2 hour trying to get thru the gate after I drive 2 hours first thing on a weekend morning to see this kid. Soooo....I've tried to return the guy's call (PO that is) but I have a feeling things are about to change. Really, they think going deeper with this "method" is going to improve things or make me more willing and comfortable with difficult child coming home? And exactly what's the plan that will actually hold difficult child more accountable instead of trying to make me answer to them more? They think if he sees a PO more often and I visit more often and I have to answer to PO more then difficult child won't use a knife to threaten or steal from me? Really?