So today we had our family appointment with me the difficult child and the easy child. The therapist brought them in and talked to them for almost an hour and then had me come up. Basically the kids begin by telling me my failings. I am a horrible mother. I dont cook or clean and I am mean at home. I am too hard on the difficult child and not the easy child. difficult child proceeds to go off on her major complaint which is that I dont let her go to her boyfriend's house since that is where she self harmed. Long story short the therapist thinks I should give her a trial run of being allowed to go to the boyfriend's house. I am ****** because then I am put in the position of saying yes you can have what you want and go to the boyfriend's. What the hell do I get out of it? Is she going to stop being mean to me. Is she going to stop disrespecting me? NOPE So basically that was her only rule. She was already allowed to hang out with him and hang with her friends any time she wanted she just has a curfew. Her chores are to do her own laundry, unload the dishwasher (which I might add she rarely does), and feed her pets. THE ONLY FREAKING THING I HAD A RULE ABOUT WAS BEING AT HIS HOUSE AND NOW THAT IS GONE!!! I feel beaten, I feel like a piece of ****, I feel like a failure. Game set match and I lose, she gets to return to the house where a parent buys liquour for her kid and where she self harms. I get JACK ****! Honestly what is the point in me parenting if I am not allowed to parent?