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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 682557" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>My heart goes out to you. I read your thread shortly after you posted and I had no answers for you at that time. After a few hours I'm still not sure of how I would react. I will tell you this. As long as he believes his addiction is a secret he will probably continue as he has been doing.I remember once reading that when things are brought out into the open the addict now has to deal with it as it's no longer theirs alone but affects the whole family. Confronting him in person may be something you are unable to do at this time. Can you write him a letter perhaps and leave it where he will find it? I find sometimes letter writing is good for the soul as it not only allows you to write from the heart without the distraction of the person you are addressing in front of you but it will also allow your dad to approach you when he is ready. I'm not sure of my answers but I do know that one letter I once wrote to my son in Rehab did affect him so that he was successful at that time in his recovery.</p><p></p><p> No doubt your dad loves you as you do him and sadly love isn't enough to make them stop. It may be enough for him to make the decision to seek help. Please keep returning to this place where you will feel safe to voice any concerns you have. We are here for you and will provide refuge for your wounded heart.</p><p>Another thought I had is if your dad once realizes you know he may make you promise not to tell your mom and that's a promise you wouldn't be able to keep.More secrets! No family member wants to hear that their loved one has an addiction but I think you shouldn't walk this path alone you need to stand in solidarity with your mom. I'm not a professional so my advice is only based on my experience with my child. Myself and others can only tell you what we would do in your shoes but the choice of how you are going to handle it is ultimately yours. Hugs from me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 682557, member: 19011"] My heart goes out to you. I read your thread shortly after you posted and I had no answers for you at that time. After a few hours I'm still not sure of how I would react. I will tell you this. As long as he believes his addiction is a secret he will probably continue as he has been doing.I remember once reading that when things are brought out into the open the addict now has to deal with it as it's no longer theirs alone but affects the whole family. Confronting him in person may be something you are unable to do at this time. Can you write him a letter perhaps and leave it where he will find it? I find sometimes letter writing is good for the soul as it not only allows you to write from the heart without the distraction of the person you are addressing in front of you but it will also allow your dad to approach you when he is ready. I'm not sure of my answers but I do know that one letter I once wrote to my son in Rehab did affect him so that he was successful at that time in his recovery. No doubt your dad loves you as you do him and sadly love isn't enough to make them stop. It may be enough for him to make the decision to seek help. Please keep returning to this place where you will feel safe to voice any concerns you have. We are here for you and will provide refuge for your wounded heart. Another thought I had is if your dad once realizes you know he may make you promise not to tell your mom and that's a promise you wouldn't be able to keep.More secrets! No family member wants to hear that their loved one has an addiction but I think you shouldn't walk this path alone you need to stand in solidarity with your mom. I'm not a professional so my advice is only based on my experience with my child. Myself and others can only tell you what we would do in your shoes but the choice of how you are going to handle it is ultimately yours. Hugs from me. [/QUOTE]
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